Kururugi
Member
I'm not sure how to explain this, but it concerns behavior. Or "lack" of behavior, I should say.
I find myself in many situations where my thoughts are locked in my head and my words are hard to get out. Before I was diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder, I was a lot more sociable, and always had interesting things to talk about. Even if it was just ranting, it was still something that kept the mood in the air fresh and entertaining. Now, I find myself always in a position where the atmosphere is dryer than Canadian dirt, and I can never think of anything to say to create a more enjoyable environment between the people or person I am in the same room with.
My brother in law just came over to pick up a T-flash card reader for the computer, and you'd think I'd have something to say to him when he finally showed up, but I found myself thought-locked and completely lost for words. This is how it went.
He knocked on the door.
I opened it.
He said hey.
I said hey.
I past him the card reader thing.
He said thanks.
I said no problem.
Everything went silent.
He departed.
I shut the door.
Now come on! This is me not seeing my brother in law for at least a week, and we are on good speaking terms. Obviously I must have Cognitive Behavioral - Social Anxiety Disorder, because I could --- SHOULD --- have showed a lot more personality at the door when he arrived. He didn't even come in! It was actually pretty awkward!
This always leaves me wondering why I am not connected with people. I remember when my brother in law and I were at one of our friends' houses. I showed up before my brother in law did, and the atmosphere the entire time was dry and awkward. Neither of us really talked much. But when my brother in law finally showed up a few hours later, he and my friend spent the rest of the night talking to each other while I sat on the couch playing a stupid video game.
I see this as a behavioral disorder, because I have no personality or character that connects people to me. (Makes people want to be around me and enjoy my company).
I'm trying not to rant here, but to me, this is a serious behavioral problem.
I find myself in many situations where my thoughts are locked in my head and my words are hard to get out. Before I was diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder, I was a lot more sociable, and always had interesting things to talk about. Even if it was just ranting, it was still something that kept the mood in the air fresh and entertaining. Now, I find myself always in a position where the atmosphere is dryer than Canadian dirt, and I can never think of anything to say to create a more enjoyable environment between the people or person I am in the same room with.
My brother in law just came over to pick up a T-flash card reader for the computer, and you'd think I'd have something to say to him when he finally showed up, but I found myself thought-locked and completely lost for words. This is how it went.
He knocked on the door.
I opened it.
He said hey.
I said hey.
I past him the card reader thing.
He said thanks.
I said no problem.
Everything went silent.
He departed.
I shut the door.
Now come on! This is me not seeing my brother in law for at least a week, and we are on good speaking terms. Obviously I must have Cognitive Behavioral - Social Anxiety Disorder, because I could --- SHOULD --- have showed a lot more personality at the door when he arrived. He didn't even come in! It was actually pretty awkward!
This always leaves me wondering why I am not connected with people. I remember when my brother in law and I were at one of our friends' houses. I showed up before my brother in law did, and the atmosphere the entire time was dry and awkward. Neither of us really talked much. But when my brother in law finally showed up a few hours later, he and my friend spent the rest of the night talking to each other while I sat on the couch playing a stupid video game.
I see this as a behavioral disorder, because I have no personality or character that connects people to me. (Makes people want to be around me and enjoy my company).
I'm trying not to rant here, but to me, this is a serious behavioral problem.