Michelle M
Member
My Mother lives very close to me and l go visit for short times each day. The problem with her l have always had and still have is l catch her lying to me as well as other people all the time. l sat and wondered if l had/have anger issues but l thought about it, is more like feeling let down, disappointment.
l saw her wearing new footwear today, which is not a big deal, but when l asked her where she bought them, she told me she had them for years.
lt is not just this footwear, but she does it all the time with items she gets. l have sat there and listened to her lying on the phone and no matter what the situation, l find that l cannot trust her or believe in her at all.
l second guess everything she says and l just don't understand why she can never tell the truth.
l am an honest person and my Father was, with whom l was very close to until he died. My Mom is closer to my sister but l have not seen or talked to my sister as she lives in B.C. so l don't know their conversations together. l know there was a problem in the early 90's when my Mom moved to B.C. and a month later moved back to Ontario.
l keep my Mom at an arm's length because of the way she is but l just cannot understand why she lies even about the smallest thing, such as getting a new pair of shoes. Today, l just sat thinking of how to leave because l felt so uncomfortable after talking with her.
l never feel comfortable around her but l felt at her age of 85, l needed to be responsible and move her close to me so l could take care of her if need be. She is alert and can function on her own. lt is just the lies l catch her in, just like she always has. l do regret asking her to move here and l feel guilty for saying that.
l saw her wearing new footwear today, which is not a big deal, but when l asked her where she bought them, she told me she had them for years.
lt is not just this footwear, but she does it all the time with items she gets. l have sat there and listened to her lying on the phone and no matter what the situation, l find that l cannot trust her or believe in her at all.
l second guess everything she says and l just don't understand why she can never tell the truth.
l am an honest person and my Father was, with whom l was very close to until he died. My Mom is closer to my sister but l have not seen or talked to my sister as she lives in B.C. so l don't know their conversations together. l know there was a problem in the early 90's when my Mom moved to B.C. and a month later moved back to Ontario.
l keep my Mom at an arm's length because of the way she is but l just cannot understand why she lies even about the smallest thing, such as getting a new pair of shoes. Today, l just sat thinking of how to leave because l felt so uncomfortable after talking with her.
l never feel comfortable around her but l felt at her age of 85, l needed to be responsible and move her close to me so l could take care of her if need be. She is alert and can function on her own. lt is just the lies l catch her in, just like she always has. l do regret asking her to move here and l feel guilty for saying that.