Thank you for your most recent thoughts and opinions. Yesterday we (my wife and me) talked at some length to a friend of ours...a woman who is not a trained counselor but who worked more than three decades in the psychiatric unit of the hospital and is well versed in "things of the mind." Sher was helpful and brought an outsider's perspective without any preconceived opinions or thoughts. My wife talked briefly to our daughter and has sensed an ever so slight softening of "willingness to talk". My wife even got her to agree that perhaps she SHOULD have counseling of some sort. This morning, when my wife went to get the grandchildren off to school (daughter had to work early and husband on a business trip) she came home and said our daughter "smiled at her" for the first time in ages. She plans to talk to her again in NON THREATENING OR ACCUSATORY fashion tonight and she has suggested that might try to get them together on Saturday to talk with us about the future. As she (my wife) puts it.... the past is the past..the future has to be addressed.......the kids have to be top priority. Our son in law will be home from his business trip late Wednesday....we hope and pray there will not be any "flare ups" when he gets home. We understand his hurts.....but we worry about possible confrontations. Like so many people, when times get tough, he has used the bottle a bit more than he should. Not to put him down, he has been a good man but alcohol can affect good men also.
Nevertheless we feel somewhat more encouraged....if we can just get them talking in a civilized manner. Our friend (the nurse) based JUST on what we were able to tell her, feels that our daughter definitely is "sick" and NOT making rational decisions. We hold out hope that her mother has managed to insert the thin edge of the wedge as it were and has been able to talk to her a wee bit....something that was not happening earlier.
Again...we thank you for your valuable thoughts and for those people of faith......please exercise your prayer power.
Thank you again.............
Dodger
Nevertheless we feel somewhat more encouraged....if we can just get them talking in a civilized manner. Our friend (the nurse) based JUST on what we were able to tell her, feels that our daughter definitely is "sick" and NOT making rational decisions. We hold out hope that her mother has managed to insert the thin edge of the wedge as it were and has been able to talk to her a wee bit....something that was not happening earlier.
Again...we thank you for your valuable thoughts and for those people of faith......please exercise your prayer power.
Thank you again.............
Dodger