Quotes on Grief & Loss

[Daniel E.]

"For those who have lost a loved one, the recurrence of sadness is not a step backward; it is the nature of grief."

"Especially if the death has been recent, allow others to help you as much as you can. You could still be in shock. It's the time for receiving from those who love you."

~ Margaret Robinson Rutherford, Ph.D.

 

[Daniel E.]

"The bottom line is, there is no time-line or limit on grieving, and in allowing that natural process and release to occur, allows us to gently connect to what is important to us."

~ Clare Sillence

 

[Daniel E.]

You Have to Feel it to Heal It: The Only Way Out is Through

You Have to Feel it to Heal It: The Only Way Out is Through by Hailey Magee, Tiny Buddha October 22, 2018 "Emotional pain cannot kill you, but running from it can. Allow. Embrace. Let yourself feel. Let yourself heal." ~ Vironika Tugaleva I plodded up the half-mile hill that led to my...

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"Emotional pain cannot kill you, but running from it can. Allow. Embrace. Let yourself feel. Let yourself heal."

~ Vironika Tugaleva

 

[Daniel E.]

"Grief is not a tidy, orderly process, and there is no right way to grieve. Every person—and every family—does it differently. This can cause emotions to collide and overlap, especially during the holiday season when the emphasis is on rebirth and renewal."

~ Anthony Komaroff, M.D.

 

[Daniel E.]

"We don't 'move on' from grief. We move forward with it."

~ Nora McInerny

 

[Daniel E.]

"The loss changes you permanently, I think, but what you learn is, first, how to accommodate the loss in your own life, to keep going, and to find peace and even joy in your life again; and, second, to learn to honor that person's life and the legacy of her life."

"Grief is not something that ever goes away. You just learn to accommodate it so you can move forward in your life and over time it gets less intense, at least most of the time."

~ David Baxter

 

[Daniel E.]

"Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o'er-fraught heart and bids it break."

~ William Shakespeare

 

[Daniel E.]

"Grief is a complicated, nuanced emotional experience that fluctuates, ebbs, and flows. The more nuance we can infuse into our collective understanding of grief by naming its component parts, the better we can honor our own experience and support loved ones going through it."

~ Sarah Epstein, LMFT

 

[Daniel E.]

You're Still Here

You're Still Here At the finest level of my being, You're still with me. We still look at each other, At that level beyond sight. We talk and laugh with each other, In a place beyond words. We still touch each other, On a level beyond touch. We share time together in a place, Where time stands...

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You're Still Here

At the finest level of my being,
You're still with me.
We still look at each other,
At that level beyond sight.
We talk and laugh with each other,
In a place beyond words.
We still touch each other,
On a level beyond touch.
We share time together in a place,
Where time stands still.
We are still together,
On a level called love.
But I cry alone for you,
In a place called reality.

By Richard Lepinsky
from: Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul

 

[Daniel E.]

How Journaling Helped Me Heal from Grief

How Journaling Helped Me Heal from Grief and How It Can Help You Too by Kerstin Pilz, Tiny Buddha July 12, 2018 "No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear." ~ C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed The day I was told that the man I loved was going to die from cancer, I did two things: I...

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"No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear."

~ C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

 

[Daniel E.]

Sorrow is my own yard
where the new grass
flames as it has flamed
often before but not
with the cold fire
that closes round me this year...

from "The Widow's Lament in Springtime" by William Carlos Williams

 

[Daniel E.]

"You can't let friends, family, or society dictate your emotional state. Whatever you have going on: relief, anger, cheer...just acknowledge it as what it is, without judgment. If those feelings change you will deal with those new emotions then. But for now just try to be comfortable with what you have."

~ Rob Dobrenski

 

[Daniel E.]

"Go against the myths of staying secluded, closure, putting your loved one always in the past, and grieving without a daily diversion. You have every right to take care of yourself as you adapt to your great loss."

~ Lou LaGrand

 

[Daniel E.]

How do you get up in the morning after that kind of loss?

How do you get up in the morning after that kind of loss? Sunday, April 30, 2006 NYT: Deborah Solomon interviews Carlos Fuentes At 77, do you think much about age and mortality? I don't think about it at all. What will come will come. I have two children who died before reaching 30, so who am...

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"You bring the person you love inside you. That is how you cope. You make him or her live within you. The whole experience I had with my children is in me. It is nowhere else I can see. I can see a photograph, I can feel sad, I can read a poem, but the experience of having them within myself is what matters."

~ Carlos Fuentes

 

[Daniel E.]

The Emotions of Pet Loss

The Emotions of Pet Loss by Moira Anderson Allen, M.Ed. "It was the most tragic, traumatic, and emotionally devastating experience I had ever been through. I didn't know what to do. I cried day and night." (Dorothy R., Alabama) "I felt like someone had ripped out my insides." (Karen A...

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"Of the complex jumble of emotions that may follow the death of a pet, four stand out as being particularly difficult to acknowledge or understand, and therefore to work through: anger, guilt, denial and depression. A pet owner who "sticks" at one of these reactions faces a major obstacle in the grief swamp. If you find yourself dwelling on one of these emotions, or spending an inordinate amount of time "denying" the emotion, it is important to work on a more realistic understanding of the situation. Otherwise, your feelings may distort your entire perspective on the loss of your pet and your role in its death, and seriously hinder your recovery."

~ Moira Anderson Allen, M.Ed.

"You won't get over it. I don't believe we ever 'get over' the loss of someone we've loved so much. But you'll do something much better. Gradually, and in your own time, you'll make peace with yourself and then you'll make peace with your loss. And you'll go on from there."

~ Muriel Franzblau

 

[Daniel E.]

"My bereaved clients aren’t bargaining; they’re anxious."

~ Claire Bidwell Smith

 

[Daniel E.]

"Grieving is a matter of relearning how to be in the world."

""The world is full of reminders of the person--the foods they liked, their favorite chair. At first, these may seem too painful to think about. But if you reach through the pain and let your mind go there, memories can be a comfort; they make it feel as if the separation isn't as final."

~ Thomas Attig, PhD

 

[Daniel E.]

It’s a Myth That We Can Just “Get Over” Pain and Loss

It’s a Myth That We Can Just “Get Over” Pain and Loss by Claire Rother, Tiny Buddha October 9, 2019 “There is some kind of a sweet innocence in being human - in not having to be just happy or just sad - in the nature of being able to be both broken and whole, at the same time.” ~ C. JoyBell...

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“There is some kind of a sweet innocence in being human -- in not having to be just happy or just sad -- in the nature of being able to be both broken and whole, at the same time.”

~ C. JoyBell C.

 

[Daniel E.]

“Grief turns out to be a place none of us know until we reach it. We anticipate (we know) that someone close to us could die, but we do not look beyond the few days or weeks that immediately follow such an imagined death. We misconstrue the nature of even those few days or weeks. We might expect if the death is sudden to feel shock. We do not expect this shock to be obliterative, dislocating to both body and mind. We might expect that we will be prostrate, inconsolable, crazy with loss. We do not expect to be literally crazy, cool customers who believe their husband is about to return and need his shoes.”

― Joan Didion, The Year of Magical Thinking

 

[Daniel E.]

What grieving people need from you

What grieving people need from you by Julia McKinnell, Macleans Magazine Wednesday, October 27, 2010 Promising to ?be there? doesn?t mean dropping off one casserole, then vanishing When a friend?s son commits suicide or a co-worker?s sister dies, it?s hard to know what to say and do...

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"People will believe you care if you just show up, even if you don't have much to say."