stargazer
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I ran a search on PsychLinks on "Internet friendships" and am glad I found this thread. I really have only hung out on two different Internet sites, in all the time I've been online (about 10 years now). Psychlinks is one of them, and the other one is a blogging site.
For whatever reason, I seem to have formed closer friendships on the blogging site. Some of them have escalated into telephone relationships, although I've not yet met anyone in real life. I don't know why this is.
But what seems to happen is that, either the friendships work out almost perfectly, with hassles never happening in any way, or the friendship seems somehow convoluted and doomed, no matter what either person tries to do about it.
There's this one person on the blogging site, a woman my age, who always seems to take everything I say the wrong way. And it bugs me so much that I finally asked her not to contact me. This happened this morning.
I feel really bad about it, because I know she's going through a divorce and is unhappy, but it's always awkward when I feel like a statement of mine is being twisted or misconstrued, and a single telephone conversation would probably solve the problem and heal things.
I asked her to call me, but she doesn't seem to want to. She did call me about two and a half years ago, and we had a nice lengthy conversation. I think I almost always come across better on the phone than I do online. But some people want to remain only online, which I have never understood.
I feel really bad about the whole thing. Maybe I should just stick with the Internet relationships that are working, and not try to solve the ones that don't.
For whatever reason, I seem to have formed closer friendships on the blogging site. Some of them have escalated into telephone relationships, although I've not yet met anyone in real life. I don't know why this is.
But what seems to happen is that, either the friendships work out almost perfectly, with hassles never happening in any way, or the friendship seems somehow convoluted and doomed, no matter what either person tries to do about it.
There's this one person on the blogging site, a woman my age, who always seems to take everything I say the wrong way. And it bugs me so much that I finally asked her not to contact me. This happened this morning.
I feel really bad about it, because I know she's going through a divorce and is unhappy, but it's always awkward when I feel like a statement of mine is being twisted or misconstrued, and a single telephone conversation would probably solve the problem and heal things.
I asked her to call me, but she doesn't seem to want to. She did call me about two and a half years ago, and we had a nice lengthy conversation. I think I almost always come across better on the phone than I do online. But some people want to remain only online, which I have never understood.
I feel really bad about the whole thing. Maybe I should just stick with the Internet relationships that are working, and not try to solve the ones that don't.