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    "Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life;
    not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens."
    Kahlil Gibran, posted by David Baxter
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and I can't stop thinking about the "what ifs." What if I hadn't lost that person? How would things be today? What would she/he be like?

Sometimes it just hurts so much. :(
 
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unfortunately that is how grief works. it hurts and we just need to go through that.

i am sorry you're hurting. :hug:
 

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Yes. Exactly. And there will be days when everything seems fine and then out of the blue the grief hits you again, blind-siding you.

The difference is that after a while you can also find joy and beauty and meaning in life again. That won't spare you the grief when it hits you but it will remind you that there is another side to your life.
 

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One thing that I have noticed with you Janet is that you are aware when you are feeling ok and even great - you do notice the positive times you have. That is something important and positive to remember.

I know grief feels awful when we are in it - and noticing throughout the day when it has lifted even a bit is a great skill to have.

Hang in there

:hug::goodjob:
 

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