I was with my boyfriend for over a year...and he broke up with me...lol..boo hoo i know
but here is the deal. i am experiencing some seious trauma..he was addicted to drugs and although he has been trying to get clean..the last time he relapsed..he broke up with me. we tried to live together as roomates..but his habits started getting worse and i couldnt watch so i told him either he had to clean up or leave. after being presented with the options, he got high, so i asked him to leave. he left his stuff here..which doesnt help matters. but he just wont go away. and the last conversation i had with him was very ugly. it bounced around all over the place and he accused me of making him feel bad all the time and the drugs had nothing to do with it.
he didnt have a job, he sat at home and played x box all day while i was at work, he stopped making diner, i had to nag him to do the dishes, i came home and cleaned..i never asked to watch tv, if i wanted to listen to music i used my headphones...the list goes on and still when i brought up these issues, he accused me of implying he was a horrible boyfriend and that i would be better off without him. I told him once that i felt like i deserved to be treated better. and he agreed, but he never stepped up to treat me better, he just used the idea against me..as in if you deserve better. then why dont you leave. i tried a couple of times before...but he always begged me to stay stong and not to let him hurt me. so i stayed and did my best to not let him hurt me. but i still got upset when he didnt talk to me until he was drunk...or if he did nothing all day but sit on the couch and thinki...for a straight month. before i left..we got into an argument about what was happening between us...and i referred to him as a drug addict..is that abusive when its true?
did this happen because of addiction withdrawls...or did it happen because he was abusive..or ...please help
but here is the deal. i am experiencing some seious trauma..he was addicted to drugs and although he has been trying to get clean..the last time he relapsed..he broke up with me. we tried to live together as roomates..but his habits started getting worse and i couldnt watch so i told him either he had to clean up or leave. after being presented with the options, he got high, so i asked him to leave. he left his stuff here..which doesnt help matters. but he just wont go away. and the last conversation i had with him was very ugly. it bounced around all over the place and he accused me of making him feel bad all the time and the drugs had nothing to do with it.
he didnt have a job, he sat at home and played x box all day while i was at work, he stopped making diner, i had to nag him to do the dishes, i came home and cleaned..i never asked to watch tv, if i wanted to listen to music i used my headphones...the list goes on and still when i brought up these issues, he accused me of implying he was a horrible boyfriend and that i would be better off without him. I told him once that i felt like i deserved to be treated better. and he agreed, but he never stepped up to treat me better, he just used the idea against me..as in if you deserve better. then why dont you leave. i tried a couple of times before...but he always begged me to stay stong and not to let him hurt me. so i stayed and did my best to not let him hurt me. but i still got upset when he didnt talk to me until he was drunk...or if he did nothing all day but sit on the couch and thinki...for a straight month. before i left..we got into an argument about what was happening between us...and i referred to him as a drug addict..is that abusive when its true?
did this happen because of addiction withdrawls...or did it happen because he was abusive..or ...please help