Empathic therapists

[boi]

I was reading past posts about this but I have been obsessing over something. It's not a big deal, Im making it bigger than it is but it kinda bothered me. I sometimes think my therapist is cold. When Im in the waiting room and the therapist comes out, they dont say hi to me. Is that wierd? I dont see the therapist that often every couple of weeks but the last appointment was over a month and when I was there last the therapist said to me see you in a month. Does that mean they think I dont need to come in earlier. I said that I will wait for an earlier appointment if theres a cancellation but I am now worried that the therapist thinks I dont need to, when I want to go more often than eveyr month. I will definetly ask her next time. I kinda feel that I am not important anymore and I am taking up the therapists time. Maybe Im faking my issues again that sort of thing. Even though in reality I am being treated with meds as well etc..etc..
the therapist once said that they feel empathy towards me but I dont think thats enough for me. Maybe Im a needy person. Maybe I am expecting something that doesnt exist

 

[David Baxter PhD]

I suspect you're reading too much into what is probably just a personal style thing with your therapist.

It may be that s/he doesn't want to say "Hi, Boi" in the waiting room because that could identify you to other patients, or something along those lines.

 

[Into The Light]

my therapist doesn't say hello to me either when there are other clients there, and i agree that it's a protecting your privacy thing so as not to identify me and that i am her client (there are several therapists in the practice there, so i could be seeing any one of them.)

i would however bring up that you aren't happy with the frequency of the sessions and work that out, i think that is important.

 

[boi]

I suspect you're reading too much into what is probably just a personal style thing with your therapist.

It may be that s/he doesn't want to say "Hi, Boi" in the waiting room because that could identify you to other patients, or something along those lines.

that makes me feel better I never looked at it that way. I guess Im taking it too personal

boi added 1 Minutes and 33 Seconds later...

my therapist doesn't say hello to me either when there are other clients there, and i agree that it's a protecting your privacy thing so as not to identify me and that i am her client (there are several therapists in the practice there, so i could be seeing any one of them.)

i would however bring up that you aren't happy with the frequency of the sessions and work that out, i think that is important.

k I do feel better now....as I said to dr baxter..Im taking it too personal
I will bring up the frequency issue for sure. Maybe I am trying to find things wrong...

 

[Jazzey]

I'm a little late in the game boi, but I just wanted to tell you that my psychologist doesn't acknowledge me in the waiting room either - and I rather appreciate it. It affords me a little anonymity at a time when I'm usually nervous about being there. - I'm happy you're feeling better boi :flowers:

:friends:

 

[boi]

hey jazzey,
thanks for your input as well. I do feel better now that I know it happens to other people.

 

[amastie]

...I do feel better now that I know it happens to other people.

I'm glad you're feeling better boi I have also experienced my psych not acknowledging me in the waiting room. Since I don't like to feel uncomfortable, I make a point myself of not looking in her direction - unless she is leaning over me to get something, and then it's really just a very small smile, the kind of thing you'd do with anyone you didn't know.