dugie_boy
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My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 month now, a while back me and her talked about her past and I found out some secretes. She told me five years ago (when she was 14) she use to cut herself (she still has scars on her hand), however this was never a problem because she told me she haven?t done it again since then. That night I made her promised to me that she will never do such things and she agree.
She?s is now 18, and A couple nights ago I saw some starch marks on her hands. There not big nor are they really noticeable. I ask her how she got those and she said it was from an accident and I believed her. Then just last night I went over to her house I saw that she got even more cuts on her hand. This time bigger and deeper worried I ask her how she got those. She had a very strong reaction to it and told me it was nothing and it was just an accident and hid it from me. I know they were not accidents. Through out the night I slowly ask her what happened and she just got even more upset so I decided to drop it. That night on the phone with her, she finally opened up to me. I asked her and she told me. Not directly but she told me that those were self-inflecting wounds. I told her that what she does really upsets me. She told me that there should be nothing to be worried/upset about and promise to me that she will never do it again. She also made me promise that I won?t tell anyone. So now we have a deal, I promise I wont tell anyone IF she promise to not cut herself anymore. I told her that if she does I?ll going to look for help.
I don?t know why my girlfriend cuts herself. She is in a really stressful time of her life. Her parents are always upset with her. She tell me that she feels like she does nothing right and that there never enough for people. Most nights she calls me crying on the phone. Her parent doesn?t like me they tell her that she should break up with me. I know that breaks her heart going against her parents. She?s having trouble with her friends in school.
I'm only 17 I don?t know what I can do about this situation. I want to believe her that she won?t cut herself again but she promised me once she won?t and she did it again. What should I do if she continues this self injury? Do I tell someone and if so who? What options are opened up to me? I know these cuts aren?t very big but I don?t want this to get worst.
Please and thank you for your time.
She?s is now 18, and A couple nights ago I saw some starch marks on her hands. There not big nor are they really noticeable. I ask her how she got those and she said it was from an accident and I believed her. Then just last night I went over to her house I saw that she got even more cuts on her hand. This time bigger and deeper worried I ask her how she got those. She had a very strong reaction to it and told me it was nothing and it was just an accident and hid it from me. I know they were not accidents. Through out the night I slowly ask her what happened and she just got even more upset so I decided to drop it. That night on the phone with her, she finally opened up to me. I asked her and she told me. Not directly but she told me that those were self-inflecting wounds. I told her that what she does really upsets me. She told me that there should be nothing to be worried/upset about and promise to me that she will never do it again. She also made me promise that I won?t tell anyone. So now we have a deal, I promise I wont tell anyone IF she promise to not cut herself anymore. I told her that if she does I?ll going to look for help.
I don?t know why my girlfriend cuts herself. She is in a really stressful time of her life. Her parents are always upset with her. She tell me that she feels like she does nothing right and that there never enough for people. Most nights she calls me crying on the phone. Her parent doesn?t like me they tell her that she should break up with me. I know that breaks her heart going against her parents. She?s having trouble with her friends in school.
I'm only 17 I don?t know what I can do about this situation. I want to believe her that she won?t cut herself again but she promised me once she won?t and she did it again. What should I do if she continues this self injury? Do I tell someone and if so who? What options are opened up to me? I know these cuts aren?t very big but I don?t want this to get worst.
Please and thank you for your time.