Okay. An update!
1.) It feels like my husband and I are moving super-slowly, like swimming in jello to get to our goals. I’m pretty sure it feels like this because my ADHD usually wants me to go at light speed. However the world doesn’t operate on my preferred speeds very often. lol So the key to me not losing my mind about how “slowly” we are moving toward our goals, is that I need to accept that getting to the destination quickly might not be the best, and it certainly isn’t the ONLY way, of getting there. Are we there yet? How ‘bout now?
2.) I was ahead of the game: submitted my required forms for long term disability benefits from my employer’s insurance/benefits company, Great West Life. It took until yesterday for these ridiculous people to follow through with my claim!!!
They received my psychiatrist’s 2-page form in which she provided ample information. She even printed off an extra written note as a sort of summary. This isn’t my first dance with Great West Life. I must say that the case worker who helped me while I was on short term disability was great. But THESE people in this department are not good listeners.
This GWL department then demanded/expected my psychiatrist’s Consult Notes, which are very very private. They even tried to get her notes from my physician, but because they were marked “Private and Confidential:
Please do not distribute,” my physician’s office could/would not provide them either.
To prevent myself from several panic attacks, I emailed instead of phoned GWL... And also to provide a paper trail for myself. I felt I was communicating with idiots! lol
My psychiatrist finally went above and beyond. I had gotten so exhausted (yet revved up at the same time) that I requested a manager from Great West Life. This didn’t seem to work. I tried passing on Dr. Papish’s instructions. I explained what she had told me: Dr.
Papish couldn’t ethically
just fork over all the consult notes. She required GWL to provide a list of specific questions that she could then answer.
So finally, Dr. Papish got ahold of the manager of my caseworker. And apparently, the manager went along with my doctor. No need for further emails, no need for consult notes. No wonder my head became detached!
2 months of GWL stubbornly refusing to process my claim because my psychiatrist wouldn’t fork over what they wanted. And then, after speaking to my manager, suddenly everything is magically fine and dandy and my claim will be processed!!! Hallelujah!!
I’m trying to just feel relief, and trying to let go of being angry at people who think they are doing a good job when they are being JERKS!!!
3.) Our federal financial advisor recommended David and I change banks due to our credit cards being maxed out and sent to collections.
I did not realize it would take over a month to get all the different companies (ie: car payments, City monthly house tax payments,
mortgage, etc) all set up on a new banking system.
Again, this is something that I could’ve gotten done in a week, maybe 2, if I had made back-to-back phone calls all day long for a couple of days. I don’t know why some companies are happy to take our new banking info over the phone, whereas others require us to fill out forms. However my psychologist told me NOT to do it all by myself: my husband David had to help. I’m not supposed be doing all these types of things all by myself anymore. My husband, David, is supposed to help!
Well, GOOD NEWS! I filled out the last form on Friday. I called more than half the places and filled out al then different forms. But David did make a few phone calls: and we’re DONE! THANK GOD! Next week we call our case worker and she can dive in and really help us by talking to the credit card companies and hopefully cut us a good deal!!!
4.) My husband is wonderful! He’s slowly but surely getting things done. We’re going slow like molasses, but we’re still moving forward. He’s even been surprising me by doing little sweet things around the house that I didn’t expect him to do!!!
Whew! Just writing that was rather tiring! lol But I wanted to let you know the good news/details!
5.) David has applied for physio and he’s on a waiting list.
6.) just have to get him evaluated by a psychiatrist so that
7.) hopefully he can apply for benefits from social assistance or the government, so that on David’s end, he will have a more equal share of income. It will take the pressure off of my shoulders, for sure!
8.) I would LIKE it if David and I could be adults and deal with this on our own, however, his mom has offered to provide the extra income we need to get by. David has had two guitar students quit. Well, one is moving to another city. The other one might guy come back in the fall. So, although I’d like David and I to work on our own finances, it is very sweet and generous of his mom, and the income is welcome!!!
9.) If David is going to get assistance, he has to be evaluated. He was resistant to go to a psychiatrist, but he will have to in order to get some financial support.
10.) Rewarding ourselves...
11.) Fantastic neighbours next door!!!
12.) Getting out into nature!
Whew! The End for now! [emoji58] Thank you for listening!!!
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1.) It feels like my husband and I are moving super-slowly, like swimming in jello to get to our goals. I’m pretty sure it feels like this because my ADHD usually wants me to go at light speed. However the world doesn’t operate on my preferred speeds very often. lol So the key to me not losing my mind about how “slowly” we are moving toward our goals, is that I need to accept that getting to the destination quickly might not be the best, and it certainly isn’t the ONLY way, of getting there. Are we there yet? How ‘bout now?
2.) I was ahead of the game: submitted my required forms for long term disability benefits from my employer’s insurance/benefits company, Great West Life. It took until yesterday for these ridiculous people to follow through with my claim!!!
They received my psychiatrist’s 2-page form in which she provided ample information. She even printed off an extra written note as a sort of summary. This isn’t my first dance with Great West Life. I must say that the case worker who helped me while I was on short term disability was great. But THESE people in this department are not good listeners.
This GWL department then demanded/expected my psychiatrist’s Consult Notes, which are very very private. They even tried to get her notes from my physician, but because they were marked “Private and Confidential:
Please do not distribute,” my physician’s office could/would not provide them either.
To prevent myself from several panic attacks, I emailed instead of phoned GWL... And also to provide a paper trail for myself. I felt I was communicating with idiots! lol
My psychiatrist finally went above and beyond. I had gotten so exhausted (yet revved up at the same time) that I requested a manager from Great West Life. This didn’t seem to work. I tried passing on Dr. Papish’s instructions. I explained what she had told me: Dr.
Papish couldn’t ethically
just fork over all the consult notes. She required GWL to provide a list of specific questions that she could then answer.
So finally, Dr. Papish got ahold of the manager of my caseworker. And apparently, the manager went along with my doctor. No need for further emails, no need for consult notes. No wonder my head became detached!
2 months of GWL stubbornly refusing to process my claim because my psychiatrist wouldn’t fork over what they wanted. And then, after speaking to my manager, suddenly everything is magically fine and dandy and my claim will be processed!!! Hallelujah!!
I’m trying to just feel relief, and trying to let go of being angry at people who think they are doing a good job when they are being JERKS!!!
3.) Our federal financial advisor recommended David and I change banks due to our credit cards being maxed out and sent to collections.
I did not realize it would take over a month to get all the different companies (ie: car payments, City monthly house tax payments,
mortgage, etc) all set up on a new banking system.
Again, this is something that I could’ve gotten done in a week, maybe 2, if I had made back-to-back phone calls all day long for a couple of days. I don’t know why some companies are happy to take our new banking info over the phone, whereas others require us to fill out forms. However my psychologist told me NOT to do it all by myself: my husband David had to help. I’m not supposed be doing all these types of things all by myself anymore. My husband, David, is supposed to help!
Well, GOOD NEWS! I filled out the last form on Friday. I called more than half the places and filled out al then different forms. But David did make a few phone calls: and we’re DONE! THANK GOD! Next week we call our case worker and she can dive in and really help us by talking to the credit card companies and hopefully cut us a good deal!!!
4.) My husband is wonderful! He’s slowly but surely getting things done. We’re going slow like molasses, but we’re still moving forward. He’s even been surprising me by doing little sweet things around the house that I didn’t expect him to do!!!
Whew! Just writing that was rather tiring! lol But I wanted to let you know the good news/details!
5.) David has applied for physio and he’s on a waiting list.
6.) just have to get him evaluated by a psychiatrist so that
7.) hopefully he can apply for benefits from social assistance or the government, so that on David’s end, he will have a more equal share of income. It will take the pressure off of my shoulders, for sure!
8.) I would LIKE it if David and I could be adults and deal with this on our own, however, his mom has offered to provide the extra income we need to get by. David has had two guitar students quit. Well, one is moving to another city. The other one might guy come back in the fall. So, although I’d like David and I to work on our own finances, it is very sweet and generous of his mom, and the income is welcome!!!
9.) If David is going to get assistance, he has to be evaluated. He was resistant to go to a psychiatrist, but he will have to in order to get some financial support.
10.) Rewarding ourselves...
11.) Fantastic neighbours next door!!!
12.) Getting out into nature!
Whew! The End for now! [emoji58] Thank you for listening!!!
Sent from my Hollycopter using SlappaSquawk