My ongoing therapy dilemma

[Daniel E.]

in that I find it difficult to even look at the shoes in case a store person comes to "help"

I like to geek talk with them about eyeglass lens manufacturers and new lens coatings like for driving at night

 

[David Baxter PhD]

Just anxiety. I dunno where they're located with respect to the rest of the shopping centre (not hard to find out and I'll do that now while I think of it), what to do when I get there (I've found photos of the inside of the store, presumably go to one of the two desks if they're manned), or what will happen during the eye exam.

Then if I do need glasses, I'm not mentally prepared for having to choose frames. It'll be like when I go shoe shopping, in that I find it difficult to even look at the shoes in case a store person comes to "help" or I'll be looking at the 'wrong type of shoes' (I prefer most mens shoes over womens and my mum had an issue with that for years which I think is the reason I have such a hard time looking at /buying my own clothes, shoes etc). So if they recommend glasses I'll have to be like "nah I'll come back later" and bail, then make a separate trip to do it another time.

I kind of feel the same way with my ophthalmologist. His office is not easy to get to - it even confuses drivers with GPS systems like Uber - so it stresses me thinking that they're going to head the wrong direction and make me late for my appointment. On the plus side, he's really excellent, much better than my previous ophthalmologist, so I'll accept the good with the bad.

As for feeling pressured to buy glasses on the spot, my standard response is just, "thank you but I already have a dispensary that I like and it's much closer to where I live if I need adjustments".

 

[Daniel E.]

And leave a negative review on Google before even leaving the mall But I usually feel no pressure and tell them I'm just looking.

 

[Daniel E.]

How To Choose The Best Glasses And Frames For Your Face Shape - YouTube

The Best Glasses For You (its not just about face shape) - YouTube

Why you dont need blue light lenses: Hidden camera investigation (Marketplace) - YouTube

 

[David Baxter PhD]

My favorite pair of glasses ever were metal frames with round lenses - my "John Lennon" glasses.

Eventually, as I aged (heads and faces change shape and generally get larger/wider as you get older), the frames became too small and I'd love to find another frame like that - sadly no luck for years.

 

[Daniel E.]

 

[gooblax]

Lol no thanks on the shame attacking exercise, especially before someone's about to be doing something related to my eyes.

It won't be believable to say I already have a distributor for glasses after I've had to tell people this is my first appointment (presumably I'll have a form to fill out at reception). It's just annoying that in the event that I need glasses I'll have to go through it at some point, and I'll be delaying it for seemingly no reason without a plan.

Classic anxiety doesn't make proper sense.

 

[Daniel E.]

Are you having problems/blurriness seeing now? If you are squinting at all, I'm guessing you will benefit from glasses. Even if you don't need glasses per se, they can be good for protecting your eyes from blunt objects and UV rays

If my glasses broke and I had no backup contacts or glasses, I would be able to do very little since I am so nearsighted. I would be at Lens Crafters for same day glasses (and would need a ride there)

 

[gooblax]

Nothing too bad:

I got a new 4K monitor at work and had trouble reading at the highest resolution. The setting below that was fine.

Last year I misread the decimal place in numbers on two separate occasions in the same week (during a training course), which was a bit strange.

The past two weekends while spending all day on the computer I've been having mild nausea - could be heat/humidity amongst other causes because its weird that it would just be at home. I didn't have it at all on the Monday public holiday when coincidentally I spent less time in front of the computer.

 

[Daniel E.]

By the way, for computer use, there is the 20/20/20 rule:

every 20 minutes spent looking at a screen, a person should look at something 20 feet away for 20 seconds.

20-20-20 rule: How to prevent eye strain

I just go outside for a break. Kills two birds with one stone. Otherwise, my eyes can get more dry and strained.

I got lenses with a coating to block out blue light and it didn't seem to help much, if at all, with computer eye strain. My eye doctor doesn't even use them. He just uses the computer software to block out blue light, if anything. There was actually a study where blue light in the morning helped people with depression due by getting in sync with a better circadian rhythm.

And in the future, more eyeglasses will be computerized:

Smartglasses - Wikipedia

 

[David Baxter PhD]

Kills two birds with one stone.

These days, that qualifies as a threat and/or a breach of hate laws. :facepalm:

 

[Daniel E.]

There goes half my resume

 

[gooblax]

Even magpies are a protected species. :facepalm:

 

[David Baxter PhD]

And yet humans are not protected from magpies. What a crazy world we live in...

 

[gooblax]

Had some major issues and bad decisions getting the bus to tonight's outing. I'll be at least 1.5 hours later (I could have walked from the city to there, back and there again in this time) than I planned to get there. Sooooo close to saying **** it and going home but I'm finally on a 2nd bus now.

 

[gooblax]

Spent some time out, only a couple of hours since I was so late and only spoke to the guy who's leaving for like 2 seconds when I said goodbye. I never saw the other dude (I went to his thing first because of traffic, but didn't see him when I looked around... A decision which began the wasted 1.5hrs), but he's not actually leaving yet.

Made it in time to catch the last bus home out of the city (it's dumb that the last bus to service my area leaves at 10:43pm... Means I'm often early to leave things, because I'm a 30yo who refuses to pay for a taxi/uber.) I could have stayed and caught an uber with another guy who lives a street away from me but I didn't want to be stuck to his timetable. He likes staying out late, I do not. Just not compatible and someone would lose out, so I'm glad I stuck with my decision even if unpopular.

I've had 3 people offer to teach me to drive in 2 days, so I'm going to need some new strategies around that again. It's been awhile since people were on my case about that and I'm rusty with the comebacks.

 

[David Baxter PhD]

On the positive side: Either way you "got 'er done" as they say in the boonies.

 

[gooblax]

Yeah that's done, I'll just have to say goodbye to the other guy at work when we find out when he's leaving. Just the optometrist left to go. Told a few people at work that I'd be going so I can't back out of it.

 

[Daniel E.]

it's been awhile since people were on my case about that and I'm rusty with the comebacks.

Car driving is for robots and Trump supporters

 

[David Baxter PhD]

I actually don't even have a car anymore. I use Uber all the time or my son drives me when he can.

It's amazing how much cheaper that is - fuel, license fees, insurance, parking, maintenance, repairs. I've been driving since I was 16 and I've always had a car until 3 years ago. I now realize how much the convenience of that actually cost me over the years - literally thousands of dollars.