- Aug 5, 2004
Similarly, another goal of therapy for OCD/anxiety is to give up the quest for certainty (or to increase one's tolerance for ambiguity):
"quit so that psych doesn't have to deal with me anymore"
On a lighter note, where's the fun in that?Do you think there's some ideal end state where I'll have a therapist who is appropriately caring and I'll be ok with it...
Actually, referencing the last sentence there, it's more that no one wants to get old.There's an old saying that "Everybody wants to go to heaven, but nobody wants to die." (or the Gestalt version: "Everybody wants to be somebody, but nobody wants to grow.") That's how I think about the aging process. Self-acceptance improves with age. Happiness can improve. Just nobody wants to mature physically too
Comparing my insides to someone else's outsides is a fruitless and dangerous game to play, especially when I'm stressed.
2. The other side of that coin is that by now I would think he should be more aware of how certain actions, inactions, and ways of expressing himself are triggering to you and making an effort to be more careful. And on the thrird side of the coin, as I was typing that I realized that people who don't really understand what it's like for people on the OCD spectrum often do have a hard time avoiding putting their foot in it. Because I am to a lesser extent on that spectrum and have full blown examples in my own children, it's basically a well learned habit for me to measure my words and actions most of the time (I'm not claiming to be perfect here; I do occasionally slip up when I'm tired or stressed). But their mother (my long ago ex) still doesn't have a clue and puts her foot in it on a weekly basis.
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There's something so warm about Rogers' technique. Gloria later corresponded with Rogers and his family until her death at the age of 50.