starwalker
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Hey all,
Need some advice. I married a girl from another country (Asian culture, me being white), and we've been married for about 3 years now. As is more common in where my parents are from (Eastern Europe), my mother is extremely protective of me (and has been for the last whatever # of years), to the point of calling me on a cold morning to tell me to wear a scarf (not to mention that anytime she needs computer help, question about Excel, suggestion about where cheap fruits are sold, etc. etc. etc. she calls me). Not surprisingly, this being entirely different from how Asian cultures work (where once a child is out of the house, the parents are nearly automatically expected to back off and let them be, no matter how much they miss them and so on), this has driven my wife to the point of threatening to break up with me.
My difficulty with it is that my mother is extremely self-confident and has no doubts that her way is the right way, and when I tried to change her mind in other respects in the past, it has frequently ended rather negatively. Convincing her of something this big ("leave me alone") seems like an almost impossible endeavour.
I know that this is an almost entirely too typical a situation. I'm curious to hear of what other people may have done with this or what they think.
Cheers.
Need some advice. I married a girl from another country (Asian culture, me being white), and we've been married for about 3 years now. As is more common in where my parents are from (Eastern Europe), my mother is extremely protective of me (and has been for the last whatever # of years), to the point of calling me on a cold morning to tell me to wear a scarf (not to mention that anytime she needs computer help, question about Excel, suggestion about where cheap fruits are sold, etc. etc. etc. she calls me). Not surprisingly, this being entirely different from how Asian cultures work (where once a child is out of the house, the parents are nearly automatically expected to back off and let them be, no matter how much they miss them and so on), this has driven my wife to the point of threatening to break up with me.
My difficulty with it is that my mother is extremely self-confident and has no doubts that her way is the right way, and when I tried to change her mind in other respects in the past, it has frequently ended rather negatively. Convincing her of something this big ("leave me alone") seems like an almost impossible endeavour.
I know that this is an almost entirely too typical a situation. I'm curious to hear of what other people may have done with this or what they think.
Cheers.
