Quote of the Day
"Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens."
Kahlil Gibran, posted by David Baxter
“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there's something stronger – something better, pushing right back.”
While interventions might focus more exclusively on providing emotion regulation strategies to reduce the intensity and frequency of emotion dysregulation, it could prove beneficial to also use cognitive restructuring to address beliefs related to experiential avoidance and nonacceptance of emotional distress. For instance, a client who believes "I can't handle this" or "it is too much, I need to get out" might benefit from cognitive tools that illustrate previous incidents of being able to manage distress effectively without escape. This client might also benefit from mindfulness strategies that include sitting with distress and tolerating and accepting emotions without following through with urges for avoidance/escape. In this manner, when the client faces moments of emotion dysregulation in the future, they might be less likely to consider suicide as a way to escape momentary distress. Rather, such clients might more easily recall moments of being able to cope with distress (i.e., cognitive restructuring) and might use newly acquired mindfulness skills to sit with distress without avoidance or escape.
"The healing of any personal crisis of the self always begins with telling your story."
"To listen to someone else's story without judgement and resisting the urge to offer advice is the first and perhaps most important gift you can give to honour [the client's) story, to honour their pain and struggle, to honour them.‟
The “Cycle of Suffering”- when we respond to emotional pain and life problems in destructive, emotion-driven ways, we end up with new problems and increasingly severe old problems...and we feel worse than before. If we respond to this new level of pain and problems in destructive ways, our pain and problems will continue to intensify and multiply. Because we’re not working through our pain or resolving our problems, our emotional baggage piles up. The trauma from the past weighs us down in the present and intensifies present misery.
What could have been temporary pain and problems has turned into long-term pain and suffering. The only way to get the cycle of suffering to stop...is to stop it. We can stop our suffering by stopping our destructive coping behavior. We must turn on Rational Mind to “think through before we do” and we must “follow through” with Wise Mind problem-solving and life-enhancing coping behaviors.
101 Solution-Focused Questions for Help with Depression (101 Soultion-focused Questions) - Kindle edition by Bannink, Fredrike. Download it once and read it on your Kindle device, PC, phones or tablets. Use features like bookmarks, note taking and highlighting while reading 101 Solution-Focused...
"What is the smallest difference that will increase your hope?"
"What would someone who has (more) hope do in your situation?"
"What or who can give you more hope?"
“Some clients depend on others for hope, because they feel hopeless and must rely on borrowed hope—hope that others hold out for them. What are important people in your life hoping for? What are their best hopes for you?”
"Yes, I will be talking about suicidal thoughts, but not in the way you might think."
"First I want to say — stop — breathe. Please listen. I’ve been there."
"Take those thoughts and emotions you have shared with others, and share them with yourself. Learn to show yourself compassion and empathy, because you deserve it too, just like they do. And when that happens, your resilience will shine through!"