amazingmouse
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I have an uncommon for this forum question: Does anyone have experience with house cleaning services (agencies like Molly Maid) etc.., and if so, how did this work for you?
I think I am uncomfortable letting anyone in the house unless it already shines and asking other people to clean my mess, even for money, but I just can't manage any more. I prefer to give all my cash for cleaning now. I would rather not go skiing than clean all day. I almost have a phobia of cleaning and it makes me very depressed. So, I decided to give it a try, and I am reading reviews. There is a neighbour who uses the service, but he is a single man in a big house and I am not in the same situation with all the kids, unhelpful, demanding husband, now we got a bird (parrot), that makes a mess on the floor at times and nobody is helping. On top of it, I am starting to feel more depressed than before and can't spend all day in the house, I just can't; I like to be out, even working, when possible, but unfortunately I get tired and can't work 13 hrs every day. I wish I had more fun, but in reality all I do is work, even when I do not work. I just can't take it any more. I am not a robot obviously and get burnt out and nothing helps me. It all just disappears when I am in a bad mood. All previous talks and books and therapies seem to have vanished in the air at times.:helpme: sorry for posting too much, please ignore, if you do not like to read. On top of it, even people, who I know use cleaning services lie to my husband and kids that they don't and the moms just do all the work alone. This is crazy. We visited a family who lives in a 7 bedroom house recently, the parents come from work at 8-9 pm and they lied to us that they don't use any services, when in fact they have 3 little kids and their house was shining.
And the fact that I have to choose between a ski vacation and secretly hiring a house cleaning service is very depressing, skiing is one of the very few things that make me feel alive, I can't compare it to many other things in life, even though I had stopped for years, I have always tremendously enjoyed my returns to this sport. I am not an advanced skier, but I did take a refresher and I can handle the trails and the downhill pretty well.
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I have to figure out the cleaning issue, because I hope my husband finally gets more settled and happy when it all shines brightly in each and every corner. When I work he is constantly whining that the house is not clean and when I don't work he is complaining that I haven't done enough, it is never clean enough for him. I don't know what keeps me in this kind of relationship, I think I just love him too much to leave, and in return he treats me like a maid!
Just to clarify, I value all work that people do, including cleaning, but I am not at work in my own house and he is not my boss.
I think I am uncomfortable letting anyone in the house unless it already shines and asking other people to clean my mess, even for money, but I just can't manage any more. I prefer to give all my cash for cleaning now. I would rather not go skiing than clean all day. I almost have a phobia of cleaning and it makes me very depressed. So, I decided to give it a try, and I am reading reviews. There is a neighbour who uses the service, but he is a single man in a big house and I am not in the same situation with all the kids, unhelpful, demanding husband, now we got a bird (parrot), that makes a mess on the floor at times and nobody is helping. On top of it, I am starting to feel more depressed than before and can't spend all day in the house, I just can't; I like to be out, even working, when possible, but unfortunately I get tired and can't work 13 hrs every day. I wish I had more fun, but in reality all I do is work, even when I do not work. I just can't take it any more. I am not a robot obviously and get burnt out and nothing helps me. It all just disappears when I am in a bad mood. All previous talks and books and therapies seem to have vanished in the air at times.:helpme: sorry for posting too much, please ignore, if you do not like to read. On top of it, even people, who I know use cleaning services lie to my husband and kids that they don't and the moms just do all the work alone. This is crazy. We visited a family who lives in a 7 bedroom house recently, the parents come from work at 8-9 pm and they lied to us that they don't use any services, when in fact they have 3 little kids and their house was shining.
And the fact that I have to choose between a ski vacation and secretly hiring a house cleaning service is very depressing, skiing is one of the very few things that make me feel alive, I can't compare it to many other things in life, even though I had stopped for years, I have always tremendously enjoyed my returns to this sport. I am not an advanced skier, but I did take a refresher and I can handle the trails and the downhill pretty well.
---------- Post Merged at 09:05 PM ---------- Previous Post was at 07:48 PM ----------
I have to figure out the cleaning issue, because I hope my husband finally gets more settled and happy when it all shines brightly in each and every corner. When I work he is constantly whining that the house is not clean and when I don't work he is complaining that I haven't done enough, it is never clean enough for him. I don't know what keeps me in this kind of relationship, I think I just love him too much to leave, and in return he treats me like a maid!
Just to clarify, I value all work that people do, including cleaning, but I am not at work in my own house and he is not my boss.
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