I have a mature for her age 15 year old daughter who has been dating the same boy for over two years. (She hit puberty at 10 so she acts more like a 17 or 18 year old most of the time) Most advice I have gotten is forbid it. But I feel like when parents do that, kids will just do it behind their parent's backs anyhow.
I want everything out in the open. He is 16. He is a very nice boy, but I am concerned that she only wants to date him. I have talked to her multiple times, extensively about sex. How it is different for guys and girls, protection, etc. etc. I am not shy or embarrassed to talk to her. I have even talked to both of them together about sex. They were trapped in my car! HA! Anyhow, my daughter was mortified, but her boyfriend thought it was funny. He is a very open kid.
After I asked him if his dad had talked to him about sex, he said yes. I still talked about it a bit with them both anyhow. So they are NOT having sex. I am confident because I have a very open relationship with my daughter. I certainly am not encouraging them to have sex either! But I am a realist and know things "can happen." Teenagers have a lot of hormones running through their blood. Thus-my many talks with my daughter. My daughter says he is her best friend, not just her boyfriend. And I believe her, but I wish she would date other boys. And yes, I have told her this many times too.
In case you are wondering, she has lots of other friends, is an A student, and is on the varsity cross country and track and field teams. She is a terrific, well-rounded kid who is wise beyond her years. But I am afraid she is missing out on the whole high school dating experience. He treats her well. He's not a jerk. They spend most of their time at my house with my supervision, but I don't hang over them constantly. I believe in teaching your children what is right and then trusting them to make good choices.
I guess I don't see how they can still be together at such a young age. None of her friends have had the same boyfriend/girlfriend for any period of time.
They both swear they are not planning to get married to each other period. They both plan to go to college-different ones amazingly.
Should I be worried?
I want everything out in the open. He is 16. He is a very nice boy, but I am concerned that she only wants to date him. I have talked to her multiple times, extensively about sex. How it is different for guys and girls, protection, etc. etc. I am not shy or embarrassed to talk to her. I have even talked to both of them together about sex. They were trapped in my car! HA! Anyhow, my daughter was mortified, but her boyfriend thought it was funny. He is a very open kid.
After I asked him if his dad had talked to him about sex, he said yes. I still talked about it a bit with them both anyhow. So they are NOT having sex. I am confident because I have a very open relationship with my daughter. I certainly am not encouraging them to have sex either! But I am a realist and know things "can happen." Teenagers have a lot of hormones running through their blood. Thus-my many talks with my daughter. My daughter says he is her best friend, not just her boyfriend. And I believe her, but I wish she would date other boys. And yes, I have told her this many times too.
In case you are wondering, she has lots of other friends, is an A student, and is on the varsity cross country and track and field teams. She is a terrific, well-rounded kid who is wise beyond her years. But I am afraid she is missing out on the whole high school dating experience. He treats her well. He's not a jerk. They spend most of their time at my house with my supervision, but I don't hang over them constantly. I believe in teaching your children what is right and then trusting them to make good choices.
I guess I don't see how they can still be together at such a young age. None of her friends have had the same boyfriend/girlfriend for any period of time.
They both swear they are not planning to get married to each other period. They both plan to go to college-different ones amazingly.
Should I be worried?
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