Husband's pain

[forgetmenot]

Yesterday i finally saw my husbands pain. We have not connected for along time since everything happened with my daughter. He is still in denial of her illness. To the point for some reason i could see his pain and i tried to so hard to bring joy to him. I joked with him and got him to smile. Sometimes I forget how hard it is for him. I have pushed him so far away.

 

[white page]

Re: Husbands pain

Mary ,

That is wonderful , I am so happy for you both , it must have been very lonely for you and your husband not being able to communicate .

Well done Mary . hugs wp

 

[Jazzey]

Re: Husbands pain

Yes indeed Mary, well done! Sometimes we get so engulfed in our own pain that we forget the pain of the people around us. I'm happy that you could have that moment with your husband and I'm hoping that those moments will increase in frequency - for both of you. He could very well be your strongest ally in giving you the strength that you need to support your daughter....:hug::hug:

 

[forgetmenot]

Re: Husbands pain

Thank you White Page and Jazzey. I hope I can stop pushing him away. I have to stop blaming him for some of my pain. He is who he is and I can't change him. He is just trying to survive himself.

 

[forgetmenot]

Re: Living with a Resentful or Angry Partner

Neither of us are being the partner we want to be

I agree when there is anger and resentment there is no partners. Seperation seemed to be the only way to stop the anger but when we are able to see each others pain and faults and work on them then that can be a starting point for healing. The anger and resentment has to stop before any communication can happen.

Is that true? I don't know. I just know when I could see his pain I could understand how cruel I have been by pushing him away.