I've been with my husband almost 23 years. Our relationship is good. He's a homebody with me and doesn't want to go to the movies or out to a restaurant for a meal.
Now he had worked with a woman for close to 4 years. She was good to him when he had his heart attacks and gave him easier freight to deliver. Two weeks ago she was fired. He misses seeing her everyday because he said he likes her. So the past two weeks he's been calling and texting her because she's depressed. He said he just wants to pick up her spirit. Last Saturday he was taking her out for coffee he left at 6 pm came back at 2am. He took her to a bar. Now to me this constitutes as a date. Am I overreacting or overthinking. Tonight they are going out again, to either a supper or a movie. Again, to me that's a date. The last time we went to a movie was ten years ago. I constantly say let's us two go out to a restaurant but he doesn't want to go always saying with his diabetes he's not feeling well.
I desperately wanted to talk to my therapist but he's on holidays.
This situation has caused me sleepless nights. I'm having chest pains due to stress and I can't keep food down.
I have talked to him and says she's only a friend. Ok, but does a man take a woman to a bar or movie.
I've heard him tell her she's smart and a beautiful woman. It's been ages since he told me that.
He says he would never do anything to hurt our relationship that I'm the only woman he loves.
Still I am crushed. He's going with her tonight and I can't stop crying and hurting.
Am I justified in feeling hurt and jealous?
Now he had worked with a woman for close to 4 years. She was good to him when he had his heart attacks and gave him easier freight to deliver. Two weeks ago she was fired. He misses seeing her everyday because he said he likes her. So the past two weeks he's been calling and texting her because she's depressed. He said he just wants to pick up her spirit. Last Saturday he was taking her out for coffee he left at 6 pm came back at 2am. He took her to a bar. Now to me this constitutes as a date. Am I overreacting or overthinking. Tonight they are going out again, to either a supper or a movie. Again, to me that's a date. The last time we went to a movie was ten years ago. I constantly say let's us two go out to a restaurant but he doesn't want to go always saying with his diabetes he's not feeling well.
I desperately wanted to talk to my therapist but he's on holidays.
This situation has caused me sleepless nights. I'm having chest pains due to stress and I can't keep food down.
I have talked to him and says she's only a friend. Ok, but does a man take a woman to a bar or movie.
I've heard him tell her she's smart and a beautiful woman. It's been ages since he told me that.
He says he would never do anything to hurt our relationship that I'm the only woman he loves.
Still I am crushed. He's going with her tonight and I can't stop crying and hurting.
Am I justified in feeling hurt and jealous?