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Celebrian:
You are doing okay. No one is going to suggest that you get close to anyone here. You move at your own pace. I share your fear of closeness and avoid emotional contact when I feel threatned. However, my fears have lessened over time because I've been able to understand where the fear originated. The fear no longer controls me; I'm getting better at controlling it. Again, I want to encourage you to visit this site and test the waters. And, if you are able, I would suggest that you give your medical people another go around. You can feel better and you have ever right to be made whole. Please do not give up.
You are doing okay. No one is going to suggest that you get close to anyone here. You move at your own pace. I share your fear of closeness and avoid emotional contact when I feel threatned. However, my fears have lessened over time because I've been able to understand where the fear originated. The fear no longer controls me; I'm getting better at controlling it. Again, I want to encourage you to visit this site and test the waters. And, if you are able, I would suggest that you give your medical people another go around. You can feel better and you have ever right to be made whole. Please do not give up.
doubledownburger
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Everyone is a bit weird. At least you are looking for help to make yourself better. I've never met a person without problems. If I did I wouldn't know what to talk about with them. I'm sorry to hear about the suicidal feelings. All I can say is that I think everyone has been there at some point in their lives.
Celebrian, you were reaching out to someone here... Which to me indicates you want to change something, but from what you say it sounds to me like you aren't sure what to do or what you want... I don't know if you're still getting email notifications about this thread, but if you can, I would hope to hear you tried to do something on your end to help yourself.
I am not a trained psychologist/psychiatrist, but being more in a position like yourself, I have been informed by a psychologist and by over-the-phone help lines, that if you do not immediately intend any physical harm to yourself or other people then it's confidential between you and your counselor/therapist. It's the same with physicians: your information is between you and your doctor.
Just between you, me and the forum here, I finally got tired of feeling the way I was and decided it was high time to talk to someone about it. Best decision I ever made. My psychologist was more into Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, not so much Psychiatric, but it was nice to have someone I could talk to with an objective view point, someone who wouldn't go babbling to a relative or friend of mine, and someone who wouldn't mind me blathering on and on about my problems... I felt that when I shared some of my problems with my husband it caused him to worry and stress out, so this was nice for him, too. Not that my husband wouldn't want to help, but he's a bit isolated like me. We don't have anyone else outside ourselves that we can talk to that we absolutely trust. We trust each other, and about two other people in our lives. The rest we kind of hang out with for fun, but our deepest relationship is with each other. So it was nice to be able to get someone from 'the outside' to help. I couldn't believe what a difference it made. It took some time, but I feel a lot stronger for it.
Just a heads-up... Try going in without expectations. lol It seemed to work with me. My psychologist's style wasn't like he was trying to pull information out of me. He just let me talk. And he would ask me things, and try to get me to find the answers myself. He showed me how to help myself, essentially. He didn't force anything down my throat or start any sentences with "You should..." You don't have to start out the conversation right away with what's bothering you: it's pretty hard for a lot of people to just start off with their troubles right away at the beginning of any relationship or meeting. If you are uncomfortable talking about yourself, here's a thought: write some stuff down and bring it in print. I did that a couple of times, because I was so ashamed of some things I wanted to get off my chest that I didn't think I could actually tell him verbally. I also shared some visual and written journals with him as part of my therapy.
Anyway, hope this helps even a little bit. And hang in there! 8) <----- that's me smiling sideways with my glasses on...
I am not a trained psychologist/psychiatrist, but being more in a position like yourself, I have been informed by a psychologist and by over-the-phone help lines, that if you do not immediately intend any physical harm to yourself or other people then it's confidential between you and your counselor/therapist. It's the same with physicians: your information is between you and your doctor.
Just between you, me and the forum here, I finally got tired of feeling the way I was and decided it was high time to talk to someone about it. Best decision I ever made. My psychologist was more into Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, not so much Psychiatric, but it was nice to have someone I could talk to with an objective view point, someone who wouldn't go babbling to a relative or friend of mine, and someone who wouldn't mind me blathering on and on about my problems... I felt that when I shared some of my problems with my husband it caused him to worry and stress out, so this was nice for him, too. Not that my husband wouldn't want to help, but he's a bit isolated like me. We don't have anyone else outside ourselves that we can talk to that we absolutely trust. We trust each other, and about two other people in our lives. The rest we kind of hang out with for fun, but our deepest relationship is with each other. So it was nice to be able to get someone from 'the outside' to help. I couldn't believe what a difference it made. It took some time, but I feel a lot stronger for it.
Just a heads-up... Try going in without expectations. lol It seemed to work with me. My psychologist's style wasn't like he was trying to pull information out of me. He just let me talk. And he would ask me things, and try to get me to find the answers myself. He showed me how to help myself, essentially. He didn't force anything down my throat or start any sentences with "You should..." You don't have to start out the conversation right away with what's bothering you: it's pretty hard for a lot of people to just start off with their troubles right away at the beginning of any relationship or meeting. If you are uncomfortable talking about yourself, here's a thought: write some stuff down and bring it in print. I did that a couple of times, because I was so ashamed of some things I wanted to get off my chest that I didn't think I could actually tell him verbally. I also shared some visual and written journals with him as part of my therapy.
Anyway, hope this helps even a little bit. And hang in there! 8) <----- that's me smiling sideways with my glasses on...
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