Heather
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I have this problem and I do not know who to turn to about it.
OK here it is:
My parents were both abused as children, as were my grandparents. My parents (particularly my mother then went on to abuse my siblings and I). Then they separated.
Anyway she (mum) clings on to us for her own needs, but I have moved out of home and so has my brother, which leaves my sister with her alone and they live quite a distance from my brother and I. Now this has been fine until now because my sister has been finishing her schooling and has needed to stay with mum. However my sister is finishing her exams now and soon will be wanting to move out and away from mum. Now this may seem like a normal thing to do but it is going to cause crap in my family. Basically mum is living my sisters life, what I mean is she everything that my sister does mum is involved in, such as her singing and dancing, she looks like the perfect mother! But it isn't healthy for my sister to live there anymore and she wants to move to go to uni (far away from where mum lives) and I am so worried that mum will follow her, she says she will and if my sister won't have her she will follow me I think (because my brother will tell her to go get). Now I dunno what to do my mum has severe problems, she really needs help but will not take it. She severely abused us children and allowed others to abuse us and yet she sincerely thinks that she was a great mum, she couldn't even raise us; I raised my siblings pretty much! *Sigh* I am so stressed, I just dunno what to do, she really needs help.
Heather
OK here it is:
My parents were both abused as children, as were my grandparents. My parents (particularly my mother then went on to abuse my siblings and I). Then they separated.
Anyway she (mum) clings on to us for her own needs, but I have moved out of home and so has my brother, which leaves my sister with her alone and they live quite a distance from my brother and I. Now this has been fine until now because my sister has been finishing her schooling and has needed to stay with mum. However my sister is finishing her exams now and soon will be wanting to move out and away from mum. Now this may seem like a normal thing to do but it is going to cause crap in my family. Basically mum is living my sisters life, what I mean is she everything that my sister does mum is involved in, such as her singing and dancing, she looks like the perfect mother! But it isn't healthy for my sister to live there anymore and she wants to move to go to uni (far away from where mum lives) and I am so worried that mum will follow her, she says she will and if my sister won't have her she will follow me I think (because my brother will tell her to go get). Now I dunno what to do my mum has severe problems, she really needs help but will not take it. She severely abused us children and allowed others to abuse us and yet she sincerely thinks that she was a great mum, she couldn't even raise us; I raised my siblings pretty much! *Sigh* I am so stressed, I just dunno what to do, she really needs help.
Heather
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