“If the doors of perception were cleansed every thing would appear to man as it is, Infinite. For man has closed himself up, till he sees all things thro' narrow chinks of his cavern.”
― William Blake
― William Blake
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“The negative ideas of your mind have to be released, not repressed by positive ideas. You have to create a consciousness which is neither positive nor negative. That will be the pure consciousness."
- Osho
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Americans are future-minded to the point of obsession. We are impatient at living in the present. Tomorrow is bound to be better... next year, next century, always what might be rather than what is. This trait in us makes for 'progress;' it also makes for a continuing dissatisfaction.
~ Gore Vidal
~ Gore Vidal
"Maybe the fear is that we are less than we think we are, when the actuality of it is that we are much much more."
~ Jon Kabat-Zinn
~ Jon Kabat-Zinn
When it is raining, we think there is no sunshine. But if we fly high in an airplane and go through the clouds, we rediscover the sunshine again. We see that the sunshine is always there. In a time of anger or despair, our love is also still there. Our capacity to communicate, to forgive, to be compassionate is still there.
You have to believe this. We are more than our anger; we are more than our suffering. We must recognize that we do have within us the capacity to love, to understand, to be compassionate. If you know this, then when it rains you won’t be desperate. You know that the rain is there, but the sunshine is still there somewhere. Soon the rain will stop, and the sun will shine again. Have hope. If you can remind yourself that the positive elements are still present within you and the other person, you will know that it is possible to break through, so that the best things in both of you can come up and manifest again.
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
You have to believe this. We are more than our anger; we are more than our suffering. We must recognize that we do have within us the capacity to love, to understand, to be compassionate. If you know this, then when it rains you won’t be desperate. You know that the rain is there, but the sunshine is still there somewhere. Soon the rain will stop, and the sun will shine again. Have hope. If you can remind yourself that the positive elements are still present within you and the other person, you will know that it is possible to break through, so that the best things in both of you can come up and manifest again.
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
"I have always been regretting that I was not as wise as the day I was born. The intellect is a cleaver; it discerns and rifts its way into the secret of things.”
― Henry David Thoreau, Walden
― Henry David Thoreau, Walden
“The important thing is allowing the whole world to wake up. Part of allowing the whole world to wake up is recognizing that the whole world is free—everybody is free to be as they are. Until the whole world is free to agree with you or disagree with you, until you have given the freedom to everyone to like you or not like you, to love you or hate you, to see things as you see them or to see things differently—until you have given the whole world its freedom—you’ll never have your freedom.”
“In truth, we are life itself. When we see and perceive that we are the totality of life, we are no longer afraid of it; we no longer feel afraid of birth, life, and death. But until we see that, we will see life as intimidating, as a barrier we somehow have to get through.”
“We realize--often quite suddenly--that our sense of self, which has been formed and constructed out of our ideas, beliefs and images, is not really who we are. It doesn't define us, it has no center.”
“All delusions begin in the mind. All delusions are based on various ways we’re talking to ourselves and then believing what we are saying.”
― Adyashanti, The End of Your World
“In truth, we are life itself. When we see and perceive that we are the totality of life, we are no longer afraid of it; we no longer feel afraid of birth, life, and death. But until we see that, we will see life as intimidating, as a barrier we somehow have to get through.”
“We realize--often quite suddenly--that our sense of self, which has been formed and constructed out of our ideas, beliefs and images, is not really who we are. It doesn't define us, it has no center.”
“All delusions begin in the mind. All delusions are based on various ways we’re talking to ourselves and then believing what we are saying.”
― Adyashanti, The End of Your World
Rumi: “You know the value of every article of merchandise, but if you don’t know the value of your own soul, it’s all foolishness.”
“The psychiatrist R. D. Laing, at one of the first conferences on Buddhism and psychotherapy that I attended, declared that we are all afraid of three things: other people, our own minds, and death. His statement was all the more powerful because it came shortly before his own death. If bare attention is to be of any real use, it must be applied in exactly these spheres."
― Mark Epstein, Thoughts Without a Thinker: Psychotherapy from a Buddhist Perspective
― Mark Epstein, Thoughts Without a Thinker: Psychotherapy from a Buddhist Perspective
"Holding onto a thought or feeling can mean many things. But one way that we hold on is by continuing to re-think, re-tell, and ruminate over painful thoughts and experiences. We mentally rehash the source of our suffering even when it’s not organically present in our now. We bring it into our now by talking about it, engaging with our thoughts about it, and actively invoking the difficult feelings or whatever else is stuck to it. It can feel as if the pain itself is compelling us to feed it. And we are, paradoxically and strangely loyal to our pain, and driven to keep it alive."
-- Nancy Colier
-- Nancy Colier
In case you haven't noticed, you have a mental dialogue going on inside your head that never stops. It just keeps going and going. Have you ever wondered why it talks in there? How does it decide what to say and when to say it? How much of what it says turns out to be true? How much of what it says is even important? And if right now you are hearing, "I don't know what you're talking about. I don't have any voice inside my head!" -- that's the voice we're talking about...
The best way to free yourself from this incessant chatter is to step back and view it objectively. Just view the voice as a vocalizing mechanism that is capable of making it appear like someone is in there talking to you. Don't think about it; just notice it. No matter what the voice is saying, it's all the same. It doesn't matter if it's saying nice things or mean things, worldly things or spiritual things. It doesn't matter because it's still just a voice talking inside your head. In fact, the only way to get your distance from this voice is to stop differentiating what it's saying. Stop feeling that one thing it says is you and the other thing it says is not you. If you're hearing it talk, it's obviously not you. You are the one who hears the voice. You are the one who notices that it's talking.
-- Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
The best way to free yourself from this incessant chatter is to step back and view it objectively. Just view the voice as a vocalizing mechanism that is capable of making it appear like someone is in there talking to you. Don't think about it; just notice it. No matter what the voice is saying, it's all the same. It doesn't matter if it's saying nice things or mean things, worldly things or spiritual things. It doesn't matter because it's still just a voice talking inside your head. In fact, the only way to get your distance from this voice is to stop differentiating what it's saying. Stop feeling that one thing it says is you and the other thing it says is not you. If you're hearing it talk, it's obviously not you. You are the one who hears the voice. You are the one who notices that it's talking.
-- Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
"Life isn't as serious as your mind makes it out to be." - Eckhart Tolle
In Search of Sleep, with Bob Ross | The New Yorker
The tapping and brushing sounds of his painting technique...offer a workmanlike soundtrack of pleasing white noise. Drifting off to sleep in a fraught time, when the last thing you read before bed may be a new report of a humanitarian crisis, or a creatively cruel policy decision from Washington, Ross’s voice blankets the jagged edges with equanimity and “let it be” optimism in the face of mistakes and disappointments. Twenty-three years after his death, Bob Ross seems to have found his true medium.
The tapping and brushing sounds of his painting technique...offer a workmanlike soundtrack of pleasing white noise. Drifting off to sleep in a fraught time, when the last thing you read before bed may be a new report of a humanitarian crisis, or a creatively cruel policy decision from Washington, Ross’s voice blankets the jagged edges with equanimity and “let it be” optimism in the face of mistakes and disappointments. Twenty-three years after his death, Bob Ross seems to have found his true medium.
Acceptance is not merely tolerance -- it is the active non-judgmental embracing of experience in the here and now. Acceptance involves undefended “exposure” to thoughts, feelings and bodily sensations as they are directly experienced to be.
~ Steven C. Hayes
~ Steven C. Hayes
"One of the most important things to recognize is that if you’re going to have negative emotions in life, which all of us are going to have, the most important thing is to learn how to not overreact to your own emotions. Learn how to be able to experience them without having to do something, particularly something destructive. And practicing mindfulness of current emotions allows you to learn to just see them for what they are."
~ Marsha Linehan
~ Marsha Linehan
"To grasp my place in this Age of Human Hubris, when we truly have become the measure of things, I go out into the desert and press my palms down on the sifting, shifting sand."
-- Gail Collins-Ranadive, Chewing Sand
-- Gail Collins-Ranadive, Chewing Sand
What’s Fractal Psychotherapy? How do you help someone with Asperger’s?
by David Burns, MD
March 4, 2019
...I recently did a one-day workshop on the treatment of unwanted habits and addictions, like procrastination, overeating, excessive cell phone use, or drinking too much. I encouraged the audience members to focus on one specific moment when they felt tempted to procrastinate, binge, or have a drink, or give in to their habit / addiction, and to write down all the Tempting Thoughts that were going through their minds, like:
1. When we understand what was happening at that one brief moment, we will understand everything of importance about that problem. As it turns out, all of your suffering will be encapsulated in that one brief example. So, when you understand why you were feeling depressed or panicky or whatever at that specific moment, you will understand everything you need to know about why you get depressed, or panicky, or whatever at any moment of your life.
2. In addition, the moment you learn how to change the way you were thinking, feeling at that one brief moment, you will become enlightened, and you will suddenly grasp the solution to all of your problems. That’s because that one specific problem will simply repeat itself over and over, in slightly different disguises, every time you are depressed, or anxious, or arguing with a friend or family member, or struggling with temptations. So, once you understand the solution to that problem at one specific moment, you will understand the solution to that type of problem at any time in your life...
by David Burns, MD
March 4, 2019
...I recently did a one-day workshop on the treatment of unwanted habits and addictions, like procrastination, overeating, excessive cell phone use, or drinking too much. I encouraged the audience members to focus on one specific moment when they felt tempted to procrastinate, binge, or have a drink, or give in to their habit / addiction, and to write down all the Tempting Thoughts that were going through their minds, like:
- Oh, that beer looks SO GOOD!
- I’ve had a hard day, I deserve it.
- I’ll just take one little sip. That can’t hurt!
- There’s a good basketball game on TV. It will be way more fun to watch if I enjoy a few beers!
1. When we understand what was happening at that one brief moment, we will understand everything of importance about that problem. As it turns out, all of your suffering will be encapsulated in that one brief example. So, when you understand why you were feeling depressed or panicky or whatever at that specific moment, you will understand everything you need to know about why you get depressed, or panicky, or whatever at any moment of your life.
2. In addition, the moment you learn how to change the way you were thinking, feeling at that one brief moment, you will become enlightened, and you will suddenly grasp the solution to all of your problems. That’s because that one specific problem will simply repeat itself over and over, in slightly different disguises, every time you are depressed, or anxious, or arguing with a friend or family member, or struggling with temptations. So, once you understand the solution to that problem at one specific moment, you will understand the solution to that type of problem at any time in your life...
Nothing is worth more than this day.
~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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