Relationship Quotes

[Daniel E.]

A Shift in American Family Values Is Fueling Estrangement

Both parents and adult children often fail to recognize how profoundly the rules of family life have changed over the past half century.

www.theatlantic.com

“Families in the past fought over tangible resources—land, inheritances, family property. They still do, but all this is aggravated and intensified by a mindset that does seem to be distinctive to our time. Our conflicts are often psychological rather than material—and therefore even harder to resolve.”

~ The historian Steven Mintz, the author of Huck’s Raft: A History of American Childhood

 

[Daniel E.]

“Today, we turn to one person to provide what an entire village once did: a sense of grounding, meaning, and continuity. At the same time, we expect our committed relationships to be romantic as well as emotionally and sexually fulfilling. Is it any wonder that so many relationships crumble under the weight of it all?”

“Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery. Love likes to shrink the distance that exists between me and you, while desire is energized by it. If intimacy grows through repetition and familiarity, eroticism is numbed by repetition. It thrives on the mysterious, the novel, and the unexpected. Love is about having; desire is about wanting. An expression of longing, desire requires ongoing elusiveness. It is less concerned with where it has already been than passionate about where it can still go. But too often, as couples settle into the comforts of love, they cease to fan the flame of desire. They forget that fire needs air.”

"Introducing uncertainty sometimes requires nothing more than letting go of the illusion of certitude. In this shift of perception, we recognize the inherent mystery of our partner."

― Esther Perel, Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic

 

[Daniel E.]

https://www.thecut.com/2022/01/mom-rage-leda-the-lost-daughter.html#_ga=2.255260747.2114217500.1642139182-1317885062.1634841428

It feels as if no one is, or can, empathize with us, the real-life moms...the ones who are simply mad at the relentlessness of modern motherhood, a role that demands a constant best while offering little assistance in achieving it.

 

[Daniel E.]

People in unhappy relationships are more likely to commit suicide

A new study published today in The Journal of Crisis Intervention and Suicide Prevention found that those who have unhappy relationships with others are more likely to commit suicide.

www.deseret.com

"Data so far clearly show that a person's suicide risk is lower if he/she is in a relationship. However, the recent study suggests that the level of satisfaction with the relationship is also important"...

Among middle-aged people, those who are unhappy but in an ongoing relationship — one where there are unresolved conflicts — are the most at risk for suicide.

In fact, the study said those in unhappy relationships become more suicidal or depressed if there are an extensive amount of unresolved conflicts in the relationship, like problems with a partner’s temperament, communication, bad habits, sexuality and housework...

A 2013 study out of the University of Ulster in Northern Ireland found that four out of five people who committed suicide in that area of the world had relationship issues before they died. The study said that 78 percent of those who died by suicide had a breakup or were going through relationship issues before their death.

 

[Daniel E.]

"If you want to see the true measure of a man, watch how he treats his inferiors, not his equals."

~ J. K. Rowling

Similarly:

 

[Daniel E.]

We’ve Reached Peak Wellness. Most of It Is Nonsense.

Here’s what actually works.

getpocket.com

A recent poll from the market research company YouGov found that 30 percent of millennials say they feel lonely and 22 percent said they have zero friends. This is hugely problematic, and a trend we all, together, must work to reverse.

 

[Daniel E.]

5 simple tips to help you have a real conversation with a teen

A quick guide to get beyond “Fine” and “Whatever,” from child psychologist Shelja Sen.

ideas.ted.com

Avoid these two words: “let’s talk.”​

It seems like the most natural way to start a conversation. But when we say “Let’s talk” to our teenagers, alarm bells go off in their brains and the shutters come down, making it pretty much impossible for a meaningful conversation to happen. Instead, hang around them in a non-demanding or -threatening way before saying anything. At times, I’ll take a book and just plunk myself on a chair in my daughter’s room. Invariably, she’s the one who starts a conversation. Look for your chat window — it might be while you’re driving them to their friend’s home, working in the kitchen or brushing the dog.

 

[Daniel E.]

7 Characteristics of Positive Relationships

Studies show that positive relationships have a tremendous impact on your overall health, happiness, and life satisfaction.

www.brides.com

"Great relationships are built, not discovered. It’s all about putting in the work to build a great relationship, and then keeping it great."

~ Logan Ury

 

[Daniel E.]

Publications — Dr. Michelle Drouin

www.drmichelledrouin.com

When most of our interactions are through social media, we are taking tiny hits of dopamine rather than the huge shots of oxytocin that an intimate in-person relationship would provide.

 

[Daniel E.]

What Do We Mean by Personal Relationships? | Taking Charge of Your Wellbeing

In our model, personal relationships refer to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions.

www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu

 

[Daniel E.]

“Don't live life like an apology. Be yourself unapologetically.”

“When we let go of our reactions and detach from other people's moods, actions, and words, we take back our power. Instead of reactors, we become self-determined actors in our lives. We take charge of ourselves and decide how we act in that moment and every moment, skyrocketing our self-esteem.”

― Darlene Lancer, author of Codependency for Dummies

 

[Daniel E.]

3 Reasons Why It's OK for Couples to Argue

Research shows that fights can actually increase empathy, release strong emotions, and communicate passion and commitment.

www.psychologytoday.com

Mindreading and avoidance are not effective tools to deal with marital issues and problems.

When it comes to mind reading and conflict avoidance, nobody does it better than people who were raised in emotionally neglectful families. Having missed the opportunity to observe emotionally healthy arguing between their parents or to participate in resolving family issues in a direct and emotionally aware way, these individuals typically rely on the primary skill available to them: avoid conflict altogether.

 

[Daniel E.]

Lengthy Marriage Now Includes Threats and Ill Will - Dear Abby

DEAR ABBY: I am a 50-year-old man, married for 25 years. My wife is older than me. In the beginning, it was great, but our relationship slowly started fail...

www.uexpress.com

If marriage counseling "isn't an option," it doesn't mean you can't get psychological counseling to help you become emotionally stronger.

 

[Daniel E.]

How Bipolar Has Influenced My Cycle of Friendships | bpHope.com

Every new bipolar cycle introduces me to a new set of friends—and a new disconnect from society. Bipolar Mood Swings & Friendship I used to have a lot

www.bphope.com

"Every new bipolar cycle introduces me to a new set of friends—and a new disconnect from society."

"Will that nihilistic voice ever go away? Or is it simply a part of me now? Going through bipolar cycles is like traveling to other dimensions."

~ April Michael

 

[Daniel E.]

How Introverts Can Keep People From Taking Over Their Lives

How Introverts Can Keep People From Taking Over Their Lives By Liz Greene November 2, 2017 I used to have a terrible time vocalizing my introverted needs to family and friends. Telling them that I needed time alone ? or that I couldn?t come to their last-minute party because I didn?t feel...

forum.psychlinks.ca

"It’s vital you set clear expectations with your family and friends — and even your roommates — as to what you need as an introvert."

 

[Daniel E.]

The philosopher who resisted despair

Albert Camus and the search for solace in a cruel age.

www.vox.com

"We’re all rolling our boulders up a hill and...life is most meaningful when we push together." ~ Sean Illing

 

[Daniel E.]

"Never pick a fight with your partner in a moving vehicle."

~ Judge Judy

 

[Daniel E.]

“If we create networks with the sole intention of getting something, we won’t succeed. We can’t pursue the benefits of networks; the benefits ensue from investments in meaningful activities and relationships.”

― Adam Grant, PhD, Give and Take

 

[Daniel E.]

“Entrepreneurs who kept their day jobs had 33 percent lower odds of failure than those who quit.”

― Adam Grant, PhD, Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World

 

[Daniel E.]

The Three A's of Relationship: Acceptance, Accommodation and Assertiveness

The Three A's of Relationship: Acceptance, Accommodation and Assertiveness by Dr. Dan Bochner Once you have fallen in love - that is, once you’ve become infatuated and obsessed with your partner - and once you start slipping into the less tumultuously blissful period of relationship in which...

forum.psychlinks.ca

"The three A’s, acceptance, accommodation and assertiveness, are the hallmarks of a good relationship."