“Nobody enjoys the company of others as intensely as someone who usually avoids the company of others.”
― Mokokoma Mokhonoana
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“Nobody enjoys the company of others as intensely as someone who usually avoids the company of others.”
― Mokokoma Mokhonoana
It’s Okay to Be Needy in Romantic Relationships
Having a need for consistent connection with your partner is actually a sign of emotional maturity.
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Someone who’s emotionally unavailable will read any attempts at connection as needy.
How to Let Go of the Need for Approval
When we urgently aim to please other people, we’re seeking approval of self from outside sources.
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"Queen of social chameleons, I mastered the art of telling people what they wanted to hear and being someone they would find impressive—all the while worrying incessantly about what others thought of me, fearing criticism, and holding myself back as a result.”
– Sacha Crouch
What to Do When You Feel Insecure
What to Do (and Not Do) When You Feel Insecure Savvy Psychologist March 16, 2018 Is your confidence the consistency of Jell-O? Do you feel like a dandelion in a sea of orchids? Do you walk through the world with an existential trombone accompaniment of wah-wah-wahhhhhhh? The good news...
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Insecurity is inevitable. No place—and no one—is completely secure, from a supermax prison to Cheyenne Mountain to that guy in your office with perfect teeth and CEO hair. But you can minimize it by anchoring yourself in your deepest values, your moments of integrity, and your unique self.
How I Stopped Feeling Unworthy of Love (And Finally Learned to Receive It)
How I Stopped Feeling Unworthy of Love (And Finally Learned to Receive It) by Briana MacWilliam, TinyBuddha.com May 28, 2021 “I hope you find love, but more importantly, I hope you’re strong enough to walk away from what love isn’t.” ~ Tiffany Tomiko When I was in my early thirties, I briefly...
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The way to a partner’s heart is to make them feel safe enough to explore and experience their own authentic self.
Why We All Just Need a Little Attention
Attention is an essential component for our physical health, and it is crucial to all of our closest relationships.
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It is the small moments that count. When your partner calls you during the day, does your voice light up when you realize who's on the line, or does your tone of voice imply that they are interrupting more important tasks? When an employee or colleague walks through the door, do you put down the phone or close the computer to give them your full attention? If your child had a dentist appointment or was facing a challenge with a friend, do you remember to ask how things went? It is these small, non-trivial moments of attention—these positive rituals and routines we establish—that turn out to be the most powerful predictors of relationship success.
“Men are raised in a way that makes it difficult to accept in themselves anything that might be called ‘weak,’ including those healthy dependency needs which you have to accept to be really close to someone else."
~ Harriet Lerner
~ Harriet Lerner
5 secrets of getting a man to open up
"I don't know what he's thinking because he never tells me what is going on."Sound familiar? In a recent poll, 42 percent of iVillage visitors say that they have a hard time getting their partner to share his feelings. When that happens, she feels shut out and he feels misunderstood. But in my...
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No one is entirely good and no one entirely bad. In fact, rather than seeing anyone as good or bad, it is more useful to notice the roles being played in the relationship and the ways in which all of us become stuck in patterns that we don't know how to get out of.
"In the proffered services of the busybody there is much of the affectation of kind-heartedness, and little efficient aid."
~ Theophrastus
~ Theophrastus
“Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it’s not because they enjoy solitude. It’s because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.”
― Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper
― Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper
Like a Fish Needs a Bicycle: For Some People, Intimacy Is Toxic
Like a Fish Needs a Bicycle: For Some People, Intimacy Is Toxic November 21, 2006 By RICHARD A. FRIEDMAN, M.D., New York Times It is practically an article of faith among psychotherapists that an intimate human relationship is good for you. None other than Freud himself once famously said that...
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"For some people, love and intimacy might not just be undesirable but downright toxic."
~ Richard Alan Friedman, M.D.
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Family estrangement: Why adults are cutting off their parents
Polarised politics and a growing awareness of how difficult relationships can impact our mental health are fuelling family estrangement, say psychologists.
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With political divisions centre-stage in many nations, as well as increasing individualism in cultures around the world, many experts believe the parent-child ‘break-up’ trend will stick around.
“My prediction is that it's either going to get worse or stay the same,” says Coleman. “Family relationships are going to be based much more on pursuing happiness and personal growth, and less on emphasising duty, obligation or responsibility.”
Pillemer argues that we shouldn’t rule out attempting to bridge rifts, however, particularly those stemming from opposing politics or values (as opposed to abusive or damaging behaviours).
Does sibling rivalry ever end?
Most siblings fight and compete among each other as children. But for some, the conflict never ends.
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“As human beings, we’re oriented towards comparison.”
“The sibling relationship is unique and multifaceted and there are often just as many differences within families as there are between them.”
"The best predictor for your adult relationship is your childhood one, but there’s also room for change."
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Family estrangement: Why adults are cutting off their parents
Polarised politics and a growing awareness of how difficult relationships can impact our mental health are fuelling family estrangement, say psychologists.
With political divisions centre-stage in many nations, as well as increasing individualism in cultures around the world, many experts believe the parent-child ‘break-up’ trend will stick around.
“My prediction is that it's either going to get worse or stay the same,” says Coleman. “Family relationships are going to be based much more on pursuing happiness and personal growth, and less on emphasising duty, obligation or responsibility.”
Pillemer argues that we shouldn’t rule out attempting to bridge rifts, however, particularly those stemming from opposing politics or values (as opposed to abusive or damaging behaviours).
I predict that it's either going to get worse or stay the same or get better.
I guess the only other option is a rip in the fabric of space-time 
Even in a controlled laboratory setting, people only accurately recognize simple emotions (like happiness, anger, fear, and disgust) about 70 or 80 percent of the time.
Horrible parents: a survival guide
Growing up with a difficult parent can be crushing. Is it possible to recover? Absolutely say the founders of a new website that helps people move on
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“The saddest thing we hear is from people who say: ‘I had such a difficult time with my own parents that I don’t dare risk becoming a parent myself.’”
How Not to Care When People Don't Like You
At one point during high school, I found out that my friends didn’t like me. One of the girls in my “group” told me I wasn’t invited to a birthday p
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“Spending time with people that care about you can boost your self-esteem and help you to feel more secure.”
Why We Say Hurtful Things We Don't Mean
Occasionally, we say hurtful things we don't really mean. We wish we could take it all back but cannot. Yet perhaps, while the past cannot be changed, something can be done.
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"There is something generous, mature, and wonderful about having another recognize the inauthenticity in our temporary little madnesses and refuse to believe that we truly mean the hurtful things we say in a momentary lapse of reason, someone whose view of us is firmly anchored in our deeper, truer tendencies, and who continues to know us even when we ourselves forget who we are."
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