Scared of teenagers

[labyssum]

I get so scared when I am near teenagers.
I was bullied a lot in school, and I know my anxiety stems from that.
But I'm 22 now...
I should be able to deal with this.
Its ridiculous.
I feel so stupid.

 

[ladylore]

Re: scared of teenagers.

Are you seeing a therapist right now? It may help to talk to someone about these things.

 

[Halo]

I don't think that it is stupid at all that you feel anxious around teenagers especially considering that you were bullied by them in your past.

As Ladylore suggested, maybe seeing a therapist to talk about the anxiety that you are experiencing would be a good start.

 

[braveheart]

I have a similar fear, due to bullying I suffered at school. Mainly it's when they laugh that makes me panicky. I try and remind myself that I'm in the present, am safe now and this isn't 'back then'.

 

[labyssum]

I have a similar fear, due to bullying I suffered at school. Mainly it's when they laugh that makes me panicky. I try and remind myself that I'm in the present, am safe now and this isn't 'back then'.

I know, when they laugh, I get so scared.:hissyfit:

 

[braveheart]

Usually, they're not laughing at you - or me. But I understand totally how it can feel like that.

 

[healthbound]

I had numerous negative experiences with teen aged guys when I was younger. And I was sexually assaulted by four 16 year old guys when I was 15.

I didn't really think much about those times until my son approached his teen aged years. When he made the transition from elementary school to high school, I was terrified and confused. It was difficult to make sense of the love I felt for him while also having disturbing memories about my experiences and perceptions of teen aged guys.

I knew he wasn't those guys and I knew those guys weren't him. But even though part of me completely understood that...there were other parts of me that did not. And therefore I experienced lots of anxiety and confusion. He and his friends were triggers ---simply because they were growing up.

It turned out to be an interesting time (and still can be...he's 16). It has allowed me to experience teenagers in ways I hadn't when I was younger. I've learned that not all teen aged guys are dangerous (or the many other things I believed they were). In fact, lots of them seem quite sensitive and are themselves scared.

Teen years are so brutal for many of us. And even after so many years have passed, some of those memories and feelings are still so raw. It's bizarre to be an adult but feel so young at times. Hm...I guess having a boy has really been a gift for me in those ways, lol. I'm laughing because it seems odd to think of being triggered as a gift. I guess I'm referring to the opportunities to reshape my perceptions of teen aged guys. Cause my previous perceptions were anything BUT positive.

Anyway the point is ...I don't think it's stupid to be triggered. And I know it feels like we should be "over" lots of things (or that they shouldn't effect us anymore). But, some of our experiences were extremely painful or scary and have left lasting impressions on us. It makes sense that we would have intense emotions when triggered. And I also think it makes sense that we would question our emotions and reactions. The good news is that we are not teenagers anymore (thank God!) and I can remind myself that it makes sense to have these fears, but that I am safe now and can protecting myself. That's the part that's different now. I didn't have that same control back then. So, even though it FEELS like I am vulnerable, I am actually not.

Od geeze...I'm rambling again...haven't been to this site in months and I just seem to jump right back to my ol' ramblin' ways.

 

[braveheart]

:goodpost:

 

[labyssum]

Healthbound-That is so true. An excellent post.:heart:

 

[Into The Light]

nice to see you back with us healthbound how have you been?

 

[chell]

l am absolutely terrified of teens and they can laugh or even look at me now and l get a panic attack. l know it is because of what happened awhile ago, but l am just terrified these teens are going to gang up on me again in my own home.
l thought l left my teen years behind but as soon as l see a group of teens again now, the old me in highschool comes back again, the one who was not popular and the one who was picked on for no reason other then to give the other kids a laugh, so now if they get in my home like they did, they humiliate and degrade me and there is no help from anyone including the Police, partially because the teens know the story is a hard one to believe and also some of the kids father's are cops themselves l came to find out,so they heard the talk about me.

lt all just comes down to one fact here, no one cares here for me. And it is too far for my family to get in the car to come when things like this start up, so l am completely alone.

l saw my Dr. today and she thinks for my own best interest that once my Mom moves into her new house, that l start looking for a new home near hers to get me away from here altogether.

 

[ladylore]

A new neighbourhood may help - I do agree.

 

[chell]

Yes a new neighborhood or new neighbors who have had a talk with the Police on matters dealing with the Public and what can happen to their children after they reach the age of 18. The ones under 18, the Parents should be fined for what what their children do in regards to vandalism, but also be fined for letting their kids out and every time the kids are out, the parents are fined as well as the kids. l have seen so many parents come and go out of the court to defend their "innocent" child after it was only a one time thing, and then seeing the kids out on the block again a few nights later.

Seems the parents wash their hands of them because they cannot deal with them, because they are getting argumentative, getting in the way of Tv, taking over the computer or telephone, so the best solution; Send the kid out on the street to play. This is a very nice well kept neighbourhood, until these kids come out at night to drink and roam the streets.

l can unplug, pack away, and wait until l can afford to flee the teens, as so many others have done before me , but the answer is instead of the police just driving by the odd time, they have to make a unit just alone for these kids and from seeing some of this stupid smartass cops they hired, they may as well handle the unit since they seem to hang around the teens anyways on and off patrol and it is hard to tell who is worst, the ones holding the badge or the ones holding the bats as they are the same ages almost to each other.

Michelle

 

[AnnaZombieS_18_90]

Hmm yea i know what your saying, I was sexually harrassed a lot at school so now, i would walk three blocks out of my way to avoid a group of teenage boys.