What to do i dont know .

[forgetmenot]

lol i drove down i cannot walk in dark i brought her cup of tea and sat by fire with her for awhile then had to come back inside she is safe there ihope lots of coyotes out here but she has her phone and fire going she is happy that is the main thing. LOL i will up all night though worrying about her out there phone is by my side if she needs me she will call.

 

[GaryQ]

LOL i will up all night though worrying about her out there phone is by my side if she needs me she will call.

LOL You're supposed to rest now that she is home with you! :facepalm:

 

[forgetmenot]

I know but she is out there in a tent and i am in here god i wish i could be not so afraid

i am so happy she is here i am and she is camping just afraid of darkness and she is in it.

she has camped before on her own on the property wish she just come inside here that all.

 

[David Baxter PhD]

I know what you mean but that sounds funny - phoning someone who's out camping in a tent.

Only a few years ago that would have been impossible except with two tin cans and a long string.

 

[GaryQ]

I know what you mean but that sounds funny - phoning someone who's out camping in a tent.

Only a few years ago that would have been impossible except with two tin cans and a long string.

Haha! You know you're getting old when 50 years ago is "Only a few years ago!"

We had walkie talkies when I was a teenager over 40 years ago

FMN... she'll be fine and probably sleep like a baby in the peacefulness of the open air. Alone in her own little space but still real close to mama

 

[David Baxter PhD]

Haha! You know you're getting old when 50 years ago is "Only a few years ago!"

Now now... it wasn't 50 years ago. I had a pager in 1997 and didn't get my first cell phone, a Nokia flip-top I think, until 1998.

I suppose I could have said, "A spell back..."

 

[GaryQ]

Tin can and string David... yes OLD friend it’s been a long long long time!

 

[Cat Dancer]

You all are in my thoughts. She's very blessed to have you as a mom.

 

[forgetmenot]

Thanks CD i just brought her to emergency this morning i took her to the hospital in Peterborough

i did phone her crisis line at CMHA to let them know how unstable she has become since discharge on Aug 24. They just stopped her wellbutrin xl and her trazadone cold turkey and her mind is just racing crazy and her body wont sit still she has not slept in two days and i know because i have been there with her. Her eye movement is everywhere twitching
I hope being at new hospital they wont judge her but um listen to her
The doctor there is going to keep her overnight do some medication changes and i was so pleased to see that they gave her seriquol to slow her mind down did NOT shove her full of ativan and valium like the other hospital did then release her home to come off it all. ugggg Also ran a cardiogram and did blood work.

They are aware she was just released from the other hospital and was suicidal then and i gave them discharge orders from there and what happened Just want someone to slow her mind down that all so she can rest new hope maybe taking her to a hospital up here where i am.

She may get to rest now with help of this hospital and i will know she is safe even if it is only for one night that will be ok.

i ask them to call me before releasing her and not to give her meds to her but to me on release. One day at a time I am going to try to sleep now try.

It so hard knowing there are people like my daughter that do not have a voice or help it hurts me to know they are fighting a wall of judgement and a system that like said has no financing to help people who are mentally ill.

 

[GaryQ]

Good thing you had decided she was coming home with you for the long weekend. Hope she’ll get better care at this hospital.

 

[forgetmenot]

Ya she had no choice in coming home with me I sort of made it happen.

i just knew someone needed to be there when all hell broke out with all the med changes and coming off the sedatives.

You know what hurt was hearing the doctor say to the staff members we dont want to get stuck with her. She heard it and so did I they did not realize we could hear them.

I tried to lower the pain she was feeling by telling her it was because she was not in their jurisdiction he did not want to get stuck with you not because of you.
Anyways just grateful he is trying to change meds a bit and keeping her there to watch her.

One has to be so careful when talking about a pt. that their voices are not being heard.

She has not called i hope she is sleeping now the nurses appear to be very kind that helps alot.

 

[GaryQ]

You know what hurt was hearing the doctor say to the staff members we dont want to get stuck with her. She heard it and so did I they did not realize we could hear them. .

Where did this happen at this hospital you brought her today?

 

[forgetmenot]

Yes at the hospital i brought her too this morning. Whatever right he is keeping her overnight that is all we wanted help to make her mind stop racing.

Hope he can help with this

He did have some thoughts that perhaps it was the other med she was on making her mind go fast now that she was off the antidepressant and sleeping med just hope he can help.

I won't pretend it still doesnt hurt those words but let it go concentrate on the fact he kept her and is giving her some hope.

 

[Daniel E.]

You know what hurt was hearing the doctor say to the staff members we dont want to get stuck with her. She heard it and so did I they did not realize we could hear them.

People can get away with so much, especially doctors.

At the group home company I worked for, a single statement like that would be an instant fire. There was zero tolerance.

 

[Daniel E.]

Regarding some doctors:

"That's a nice idea, that doctors have no time to be polite. So how do they find the time to be insulting? It looks good on paper, that they are naive or innocent, but it doesn't hold up to reality. I think they just like seeing how far they can go before people are ready to slap them."

- Anonymous

 

[GaryQ]

Thankfully there are still some doctors that are kind and compassionate. My GP and My vascular specialist are awesome doctors. My cardiologist is great but lacks bedside manners but at least he’s a great cardiologist.Sadly though seems there are far too many that have lost touch with reality and what their professional purpose is. To help the sick.

 

[Daniel E.]

Yeah, I used to work years ago for a group of six surgeons. They were all nice except the plastic surgeon. He would sometimes go into narcissistic tantrum mode when talking to the office manager.

 

[David Baxter PhD]

I see several doctors fairly regularly these days and I have to say that they are all excellent and very humane.

I had several hospital admissions in recent years too and I only ever encountered one female resident - she was just plain nasty, power-tripping as she did her rounds with a flock of junior residents. Interestingly, she showed up one day with her boss, the real doctor, and her entire demeanor changed. She was just a bitch.

I must also say that all but one of the nurses I encountered over the years were just amazing, again really compassionate and professional. The one exception was just lazy and inattentive. She put in a catheter incorrectly and then left the ward on a supper break. The pain after a few minutes was excruciating and they had to redo it. The head nurse was involved in that and I heard him say to another nurse something to the effect of you just don't do that. You stay around until you have give time to check that everything is okay before you take off on a break. On that occasion, I think I was there for about 10 days and I never saw her again. I don't know if she was fired or just reassigned but she certainly didn't come back on the ward.

 

[GaryQ]

I’ve also had mostly good care in the hospital visits for medical reasons. Except one idiot of a cardiologist after an angiogram that thought reaming me out like a little kid for smoking after 3 heart attacks and the triple bypass was anything new. Oh and one dr. In emergency ward thought I was just looking for narcotics when I went in after one nurse injured my sciatic nerve during one of my testosterone injections. Trust me that hurts like crazy! Took over 6 months for the pain to fully subside and over a year before I got feeling back in the back of my left heel.

Seems the psychiatric side of doctors and nurses is not as “compassionate” in the hospital environment. You’re often treated as a child or an idiot that they are stuck babysitting against their will. Like seriously pick another field if you have no care or compassion for the mentally ill.

 

[GaryQ]

Any update on your daughter FMN?