The need to be normal is the predominant anxiety disorder in modern life.
~ Thomas Moore
~ Thomas Moore
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David Baxter PhD
Late Founder
Perhaps to "be normal" (whatever that is) and to "be seen as normal". A lot of anxiety is about how others see you or what others think of you.
David Baxter PhD
Late Founder
On starting again:
“Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over.” ~ Guy Finley
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” ~ Alexander Graham Bell
“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you’re not going to stay where you are.” ~ J.P. Morgan
“The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.” ~ Steve Jobs
“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” ~ Arthur Ashe
“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.” ~ Albert Ellis
“Let go of certainty. The opposite isn’t uncertainty. It’s openness, curiosity and a willingness to embrace paradox, rather than choose up sides. The ultimate challenge is to accept ourselves exactly as we are, but never stop trying to learn and grow.” ~ Tony Schwartz
“Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over.” ~ Guy Finley
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” ~ Alexander Graham Bell
“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you’re not going to stay where you are.” ~ J.P. Morgan
“The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.” ~ Steve Jobs
“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” ~ Arthur Ashe
“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.” ~ Albert Ellis
“Let go of certainty. The opposite isn’t uncertainty. It’s openness, curiosity and a willingness to embrace paradox, rather than choose up sides. The ultimate challenge is to accept ourselves exactly as we are, but never stop trying to learn and grow.” ~ Tony Schwartz
‘It is because a fellow is more afraid of the trouble he might have than he ever is of the trouble he’s already got. He’ll cling to trouble he’s used to before he’ll risk a change.’
"Memory believes before knowing remembers. Believes longer than recollects, longer than knowing even wonders."
~ William Faulkner, Light in August (1932)
"Memory believes before knowing remembers. Believes longer than recollects, longer than knowing even wonders."
~ William Faulkner, Light in August (1932)
“Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.”
“Instead of worrying about what you cannot control, shift your energy to what you can create.”
― Roy T. Bennett
“Instead of worrying about what you cannot control, shift your energy to what you can create.”
― Roy T. Bennett
“People must earn the right to be in your inner circle.”
~ unknown
~ unknown
"Age is a question of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter."
"Don't pray when it rains if you don't pray when the sun shines."
"Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody's watching."
~ Satchel Paige
"Don't pray when it rains if you don't pray when the sun shines."
"Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody's watching."
~ Satchel Paige
"Courage is fear holding on a minute longer."
“If everyone is thinking alike, then somebody isn't thinking.”
~ George S. Patton
“If everyone is thinking alike, then somebody isn't thinking.”
~ George S. Patton
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"Things start out as hopes and end up as habits."
~ Lillian Hellman
~ Lillian Hellman
David Baxter PhD
Late Founder
As a boy, one of my favorite books was The Heart of a Dog by Albert Payson Terhune, a book of short stories published in 1924 about the collies of Sunnybrook Farm, which contained a story titled One Minute Longer.
That book and particularly that story has stayed with me all these years, in part because it contained the line, "Heroism consists in hanging on one minute longer", purportedly an old Norse proverb. The main character in the story has fallen through the ice on a river and is slowly freezing to death while all his attempts to extricate himself make his situation worse. He dispatches his dog, Wolf, to go fetch help and then waits, all the while repeating that proverb to himself, "Heroism consists in hanging on one minute longer".
I actually always remembered the line all these years as "Courage consists in hanging on just one minute longer", until just now when I was curious about when the book was published and found the original text of the story, now in the public domain. You can download a PDF
version of the story at ONE MINUTE LONGER by Albert Payson Terhune In the Public Domain - PDF Free Download.
In any case, with all due respect to George S. Patton, the quote did not originate with him. Perhaps he also read that story from The Heart of a Dog.
That book and particularly that story has stayed with me all these years, in part because it contained the line, "Heroism consists in hanging on one minute longer", purportedly an old Norse proverb. The main character in the story has fallen through the ice on a river and is slowly freezing to death while all his attempts to extricate himself make his situation worse. He dispatches his dog, Wolf, to go fetch help and then waits, all the while repeating that proverb to himself, "Heroism consists in hanging on one minute longer".
I actually always remembered the line all these years as "Courage consists in hanging on just one minute longer", until just now when I was curious about when the book was published and found the original text of the story, now in the public domain. You can download a PDF
version of the story at ONE MINUTE LONGER by Albert Payson Terhune In the Public Domain - PDF Free Download.In any case, with all due respect to George S. Patton, the quote did not originate with him. Perhaps he also read that story from The Heart of a Dog.
"Life is a guy trying to play a violin solo in public, while learning the music and his instrument at the same time."
"Opportunities to find deeper powers within ourselves come when life seems most challenging."
~ Joseph Campbell
"Opportunities to find deeper powers within ourselves come when life seems most challenging."
~ Joseph Campbell
"The regularity with which humans overcome life obstacles has been referred to as ‘ordinary magic’ …a notion that contradicts much popular press coverage of ‘overcoming the odds.’"
~ "Resilience," Encyclopedia of Mental Health
~ "Resilience," Encyclopedia of Mental Health
"The tragedy of old age is not that one is old, but that one is young."
~ Oscar Wilde
~ Oscar Wilde
David Baxter PhD
Late Founder
Actually, if it is temporary, it can in my opinion be a healthy response to crisis, trauma, or stress.
I call it "going into the cave". It can allow you to filter out a lot of the noise and allow you to use your brain's natural "background processing" to ground yourself, explore alternate coping strategies or solutions, and blunt the high intensity emotional reaction than can sometimes occur and that gets in the way of productive thinking.
and mania. Just from watching the news, I am often reminded of the book American Mania: When More is Not Enough.
David Baxter PhD
Late Founder
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." ~ Joseph Campbell
“The way to find out about happiness is to keep your mind on those moments when you feel most happy, when you are really happy — not excited, not just thrilled, but deeply happy. This requires a little bit of self-analysis. What is it that makes you happy? Stay with it, no matter what people tell you. This is what is called following your bliss.”
"People say that what we're all seeking is a meaning for life. I don't think that's what we're really seeking. I think that what we're seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances with our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive."
"If you can see your path laid out in front of you step by step, you know it's not your path. Your own path you make with every step you take. That's why it's your path."
“We're not on our journey to save the world but to save ourselves. But in doing that you save the world. The influence of a vital person vitalizes.”
“We're so engaged in doing things to achieve purposes of outer value that we forget the inner value, the rapture that is associated with being alive, is what it is all about.”
“Not all who hesitate are lost. The psyche has many secrets in reserve. And these are not disclosed unless required.”
“When we quit thinking primarily about ourselves and our own self-preservation, we undergo a truly heroic transformation of consciousness.”
“When you realize that eternity is right here now, that it is within your possibility to experience the eternity of your own truth and being, then you grasp the following: That which you are was never born and will never die..."
“He who thinks he knows, doesn't know. He who knows that he doesn't know, knows.”
― Joseph Campbell
"People say that what we're all seeking is a meaning for life. I don't think that's what we're really seeking. I think that what we're seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances with our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive."
"If you can see your path laid out in front of you step by step, you know it's not your path. Your own path you make with every step you take. That's why it's your path."
“We're not on our journey to save the world but to save ourselves. But in doing that you save the world. The influence of a vital person vitalizes.”
“We're so engaged in doing things to achieve purposes of outer value that we forget the inner value, the rapture that is associated with being alive, is what it is all about.”
“Not all who hesitate are lost. The psyche has many secrets in reserve. And these are not disclosed unless required.”
“When we quit thinking primarily about ourselves and our own self-preservation, we undergo a truly heroic transformation of consciousness.”
“When you realize that eternity is right here now, that it is within your possibility to experience the eternity of your own truth and being, then you grasp the following: That which you are was never born and will never die..."
“He who thinks he knows, doesn't know. He who knows that he doesn't know, knows.”
― Joseph Campbell
“Man is an animal which, alone among the animals, refuses to be satisfied by the fulfillment of animal desires.”
~ Alexander Graham Bell
~ Alexander Graham Bell
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