Quote of the Day
"Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens."
Kahlil Gibran, posted by David Baxter
“Through its influence upon the unconscious, music can have a specific healing effect. It can help in eliminating repressions and resistances, and it can bring into the field of waking consciousness many drives, emotions and complexes which were creating difficulties in the unconscious.”
When therapy is progressing slowly, this does not necessarily mean that you have “unconscious resistances” in the sense that Freud conceived them, or that your brain is working undercover to sabotage you. It also does not mean you are not working hard enough! Therapy is an investment, requiring patience, perseverance, and consistency. Gains are gradual and incremental, but only then can change be long-lasting.
TUESDAY, Jan. 19, 2021 (HealthDay News) -- It may take a village to support teens' mental health, whether it's during the pandemic or later. One option is having school-based mental health programs that offer peer support leaders.A new C.S. Mott Children's Hospital National Poll on Children's...
Three-quarters of parents in the poll thought peers could better understand teen challenges, compared to teachers or counselors in the school. The majority also agreed that peer support leaders at school would encourage more teens to talk with someone about their mental health problems.
“People need people - for initial and continued survival, for socialization, for the pursuit of satisfaction. No one - not the dying, not the outcast, not the mighty - transcends the need for human contact.”
“[T]he harvest of psychotherapy is not cure - surely, in our field, that is an illusion - but instead change or growth.”
Cognitive processes cannot stand equivalent to all psychological processes. It is vital to clarify why a research focus on motivation, human needs, developmental processes, social relationships and contexts is important to any comprehensive model of mental health and care systems. If you thwart an individual’s basic emotional and motivational needs, it has major consequences on how the brain deals with those crises of absence.
"When pathological ambivalence is operating, a person's self-talk includes statements such as, 'No one will care for my needs, but I secretly, maybe even unconsciously, crave the experience of being taken care of. Therefore, I need to act in a way that will get you to take care of me. However, I can't believe that you will care for my needs regardless of what you do, so I need to act in a way that shows that I don't care or need you.'"
How the Stories You Tell Yourself Are Ruining Your Life. If you are struggling with feelings of insecurity of any kind, it may be that you are being influenced by a "story" that you developed in childhood. This story may have been guiding you, sometimes without your awareness, ever since.
"One of the saddest things I encounter in my work as a psychologist is to hear about the painful experiences people have lived through and then watch as they create the same pain in their adulthood due to their early false beliefs."
"Stories we tell ourselves that contain false scripts can produce ambivalence in our lives about how best to get our needs met. Say, for instance, that you want to be married and have a family but you believe that people can't be trusted and will eventually leave. You are experiencing two opposing needs; to have a family and to protect yourself from rejection. Opposing needs will create ambivalence as to how to interact with others. Consequently, the need to protect yourself from rejection creates a guardedness that may actually result in people leaving; this then affirms the belief that people will leave. This is referred to as a self-fulfilling prophecy. Sound confusing? It is and it can have life-crippling effects."
"The ability for attuned communication, indispensable for establishing secure attachment between parent and child (or therapist and patient), rests on our capacity to accurately sense someone else’s state and communicate, nonverbally (most important) and verbally (less important), our felt understanding of their emotional experience.”
Solution Focused Techniques Counselling Connection Monday, March 30th, 2009 Solution focused therapies are founded on the rationale that there are exceptions to every problem and through examining these exceptions and having a clear vision of a preferred future, client and counsellor...
"Clients want to change, they have the capacity to change and they are doing their best to make change happen."
The main purpose of therapy is to help people become the best version of their authentic self. This means deconstructing a lot of the false assumptions they may have internalized in their early childhood.
“Suck it up and quit being the way you are” is an excellent example of the kind of negative false belief many people have internalized. This kind of thinking leads people to believe that their feelings are not important, and something they need to repress. It tells them that they are somehow defective, when in fact they should be acknowledging their feelings, and learning ways to effectively manage them, while giving themselves the respect and love we all deserve.
I find that I feel the most completely alone and wanting to talk in the hours and day that follow a therapy session. I wish I had another therapist that I could discuss my concerns/thoughts about my (main) therapist/therapy with or that I could have a second therapy session shortly after the...
"I think allowing yourself to be vulnerable is one of the hardest things to do in therapy. The good news is that if you keep working at it, over time you will allow yourself to go there. Don't beat yourself up over this, it is a process, and takes time, for all of us. Have faith in yourself, you will get there."